I've dated a slightly younger woman, a slightly older woman and a slightly younger guy who were all a massive waste of time. I found myself pouring money into them as projects that were supposed to make 'our' future together better but wised up to the fact that they were essentially not worth the effort. All the time I seemed to be sticking my neck out and putting myself 2nd and getting nothing back. The first lass wouldn't come out of the closet to be with me despite the fact that I had for her (then a couple of months after we split up her new girlfriend proposed to her and THEN she came out of the closet to her parents in the same breath as asking for wedding funds, damn cheeky if you ask me). The second lass didn't know what she wanted and broke it off to sleep with the male captain of her ultimate frisbee team. The younger lad turned out to be certifiably insane, I tried to get him to talk to therapist and take his meds (UK so it was all free healthcare but he still wouldn't accept it) who then cheated on me with a barely legal lad whilst I was working two jobs to keep us afloat.
I now live with my partner of 2yrs who is a guy 20yrs older. What a relief! He works an actual, proper full-time job so we pay our fare share of the bills, then I get to spend my surplus income on whatever I like. I get on great with his parents. We both ride motorbikes together (though he is a much faster rider than me) and go touring together. We did the Isle of Man TT and the Normandy coastline this year. For my birthday we did our first track day and his son from a previous relationship came too on his racebike, it was great to have a family event. Here is a photo of us at a local bike show after winning an assault course challenge (I'm the lass on the floor, he's the bloke in the hat).
People have been most judgemental about me dating other women and about me dating a guy 20 yrs my senior. They were least judgemental when I was with the slightly younger but completely insane guy. Ignore people's opinions, they presume too much and know nothing about your circumstances.
