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may I interject???
Both of you have valid points, this is true.
But, even though porn has been found in the homes of convicted, and unconvicted, sex criminals, it must be pointed out that porn is in millions of millions of homes worldwide. Is this to say everyone that has porn is a sex offender? I don't think so, and if reliable stats were brought in, it would be found there are millions of porn owners/ veiwers that are not, have not, and will not be sex offenders.
Lets also look at the numbers of sex offenders that had no porn in their home. I am certain there would be numbers there, too. I will state those numbers aren't very high, but they do exist. Is this to say you are, or will be an offender if you don't have porn?
I also agree that the girls of porn are someone's daughter/sister/mother. I am demeaning them by watching perform their chosen profession? I don't think so. Remember, only they can put themselves there.
I am not saying I want to buy a video and see my daughter there. I would certainly be heartbroke and sick about it. But, I raised her to not have to go that route. If she chooses to, it's all on her. I don't have to watch it and will not watch it. I would give to her the video, though. It would hurt to know that some guy is spanking his monkey watching her, millions are. But she knew this before she got involved in it.
I also do not agree that one must view more perverted porn to keep the high. I do agree that it has been utilized to enhance private sex lives of couples. It shows a variety, and some folks need that. Some folks need the extra stimuli. Theres nothing wrong with that.
Suppose your wife is feeling frisky while you are watching CSI MIAMI. Your sex life has tapered down abit. She goes in the room, adorns a very sheer and sexy "teddy". Is she a pervert because she kicked it up a notch? No, she is being human, giving visual stimulation. What if she is in the bathroom when you come out of the shower, dripping wet and you use a pelvic thrust to sling "weiner water" on her playfully? Are you the next baby rapist? No, you are being playful.
When a man donates his super swimmers at the frozen swimmers bank, they provide porn to help give the stimulation. I highly doubt they are on the phone with the FBI warning them there is a future child molester in the room next door and they need to watch you.
While there is suggestive evidence that porn is a major part of "chester the molester's" lifestyle, there is equal rebuttal evidence that porn really had nothing to do with it. Nothing is written in stone about this.
This like saying killers watched "how to" videos, then killed. Or, that others in prisons have learned how to do whatever it is they did by wacthing videos or bought books. People do as people do. No particular rhyme or reason. They just "do".
I do not judge people on the rights or wrongs of it. This is purely a matter of personal choice. I have seen it many times. I do not need it, but don't run, either.
As long as the actors, {yes they are just that} and the veiwers all are content, then so be it. Any act that people perform, in public, or private, is ok as long as there is mutual consent. If this is present, then neither can say they were degraded, so it's all good, I guess.
No matter what, though, people must remember the differences of love and lust, F$#king and making love. You can neither love and F#@k, nor lust and make love.
Notice that lust and F#$k both have a "U" in second place. If one "U" is present, both are. "U" {you} are not in first place.
The other way, both have "love"
Due to the vast numbers of religions and interputations, I will venture into this area.
What is good for one isn't for all, vice versa. Sorry for such a long ramble.....
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