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Yes porn can be an addiction, just as alcohol can be. It can ruin lives when the person isn't in control. But just like alcohol is ok every now and then to the person not addicted, so is porn. Wait..lemme guess...you don't drink alcohol either?
As to #4 in your list, I have no illusions as to when he's looking, but plenty of women do. But, just and you're comfortable in your relationship without porn, we are comfortable in ours with it. While I haven't been with him as long as you've been with your wife, I do feel 9 years is quite a statement.
And for #5, you have a SERIOUS problem if you're going into debt over porn. With the amount that is out there for FREE, you'd almost have to try getting into debt. I don't have the number of dollars we've spent over the years, but I can say with confidence that it's under $100. A few friends I have spend that in a year, do I think they have a problem? Nope.
I think you are blowing the dangers of porn way out proportion. I'm willing to guess that the number of people out there that actually have a serious problem are about the same as the number of people that have problems with alcohol....or any other "common" addiction. Like I've said in previous posts the relationship problems are caused by the dishonesty....and that is something the person controls, not the porn.
And in case you weren't aware not EVERYONE is religious and has religious qualms about porn. That's a whole other issue entirely. But then again, look at all the "religious" people that sleep around (much more destructive than porn), steal, kill people, etc....the hypocrisy is not limited to watching porn. But, again, that's neither here nor there.....and I enjoyed the conversation/debate much more before religion entered (it only serves to obscure things, and isn't a standard that applies to everyone).
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