Martha won't eat....one week post shed

Hi, I have been reading and reading until my eyes are red about feeding problems in bp's. My old girl (I really don't know how old she is) won't eat post shed. When I purchased her on Sept 22, she was ready to eat. I fed her 3 live mice and she ate them well. Up until and including October 17th, she had eaten approx 13 live adult mice. Then I noticed a small mite problem in both my bp;s tanks. After cleaning and disinfecting and treating them, she went into a shed cycle. When feeding time came around again on Oct 23, my male gobbled his three mice up like no tomorrow, but she refused (I attributed this to her being is shed mode). She shed her skin along with eye caps intact on Oct 28th, along with two big handfuls of poo and a soaked dish towel in pee and urate chunks (she really unloaded I tell ya!!). I thought for sure she'd be hungry now cuz most snakes are ravenous after a big shed and dump like that!! I inspected the poo and pee for anything abnormal, and all was fine (all mouse hair and water). Well, I've been trying to offer her live mice, dead mice, frozen mice, warmed up mice, everything I could think of to get her to eat.....she refuses. My male is also refusing to eat since Oct 28th, but that's not too long ago. I'm not worried about him yet. It's the female........She didn't shed her tail with the shed on the 28th, and I went and picked at it a little to try and get it to come off. What happened next was GROSS!!!......a big chunk of her scale came off like dried up scab and exposed her bare flesh all bloody and raw. Now she has a very sore tail since then. I've been keeping it clean and for the first few days I put ointment on it, but now it's all dried up and looks normal. Except I can tell where the peice came off because I was the one who did it. It must have been just waiting to fall off because I didn't pull very hard on the skin that was shedding. Her tail looks so sore now and I just don't know if I should keep it moist to try and shed the skin, or wait until the next shed to see what happens. I had a bandaid on her tail for two days to keep it moist hoping that it would shed nicely, but it only annoyed the hell out of her. The only thing that I can attribute this fast that she is doing to is all of the activity that's been going on with her. First of all the mites (I washed her body every day for a week in plain water for 5 mins to ensure the mites wouldn't return....she hated this), I also took away her substrate of bark and moss and mulch and replaced it with paper towel and face cloths. I tried to force feed her last week because I was getting worried....that didn't work at all and I never even got the mouse in her mouth. (she is a big girl 2650g and I couldn't hold her down to open her mouth. Shes stronger than I am). I think I have just stressed the living crap out of her hey???? For the last week we have only taken her out of her cage once, and that was to put in a nicer, bigger hide for her to curl up in that actually fit her (the other ones left her tail hanging out and would not completely close down around her). Now she has this nice set up and hasn't come out of it for days. Should I just give this time? Quit offering her mice for a while? Keep offering her mice every few days? I also put some drops of that mouse maker on the mice for her. She showed a little interest then with her tongue, but after a minute, shyed away. She drank some water the other day.....I caught her drinking out of her dish, which I haven't seen her do yet at all. Her eye is still wrinkly, but I think she was born with this (There is another thread all about this eye thing and it's been chopped down to a birth defect). Anyways, I know balls can go a while without eating, it's just that her appetite when I purchased her and for a month after was so ferocious. It's just after all this mites and shedding business that she's changed. Its been almost a month since the mite thing so I can give her the bark substrate back agian. Maybe this will make a difference. She isn't acting lethargic or dehydrated at all.

Cher