Why is it...

Thanks you guys, but we rent our place right now, so the whole, "lawyer thing" isn't really applicable I don't think, he said he's very happy to go get an apartment and go somewhere else. I was mostly looking for a place to vent, but I appreciate all your feedback guys and gals A lawyer wouldn't really be worth my time, he doesn't want the snakes except his Burm he's had for years that's always been his, and he's happy coming to us right now to see our son, neither of us want him to have to see the girls he's around, their mostly drug addicts or sluts :/ and I don't intend what so ever to stop him from seeing our son, as long as he gives me the same courtesy. Thanks again for all the support everyone!

And were still together and happy finally !!

So glad you were able to work things out.

thank you.. yeah i let him back in the bedroom

Good for both of you! :-)

Just now seeing & reading this...

I can definitely empathize with you... Betrayals can be very rough, especially when it's from someone you deeply love. If physical betrayal (cheating) was involved, it can be very hard to forgive & even harder to forget. Depending on *your* relationship & feelings, a causal fling, IMO, is not worth going your separate ways & ending your relationship, especially a marriage. It all again, depends on your specific circumstances & what you can & can't live with.

A lot of people assume if one stays in a relationship after someone cheated that they are *weak, stupid, etc..* BUT that is NOT true.... It takes a really strong person to STAY & rebuild after that kind of betrayal, I can say that because I am living through it.

IF the other person , who cheated, does NOT stop that behavior, then that is a different story. But if they have made a change for the better & are recommitted to your relationship, then you owe it to yourself to try to work it out & take it day by day.

There is another form of betrayal that is more common today than physical cheating... that would be *emotional cheating*...and it can be equally hurtful & damaging to ones relationship...

Here is something I copied & pasted from an MSN article on emotional cheating:

"So how does a modern friendship become a relationship threat? As humans,
we all have a powerful need to feel connections with others — a more
powerful need than men often admit to themselves, says M. Gary Neuman, a
psychotherapist and the author of In Good Times & Bad.
Biologically, we're drawn to seek that connection with members of the
opposite sex. "However, the average couple spends only 12 to 20 minutes a
day talking, and most of that is about dirty diapers or the mortgage,"
he says. "Then a friend comes along — someone you never have to see when
she's sick, someone you don't have to worry about paying bills or
pulling through stressful times with. The friendship becomes all about
the goodies: humor, philosophical conversation, compliments."

But that joke you e-mail her, the witty banter you share — it's all
fueled with energy from a finite reserve, experts say. "As more of your
energy goes into the new friendship, it's drained from your primary
relationship, leaving it bland, empty, and neutral," says Potter-Efron."

Just something to think about, IMO ...

Glad to hear things are working out for you : )