I need advice

I just found this on my wife's faceboo and dont know how to deal with it, You gotta read it from bottom up. Sorry

You winked at Adam and said "Me too Night". (you gave him 1 luv)

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Adam whispered to your ear and said "i better get to bed sexy. it was good talking to ya. hope to do it more often ". (he gave you 2 luv)
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You whispered to Adam's ear. (you gave him 2 luv)

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Adam spooned with you. (he gave you 2 luv)
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You caressed Adam's chest. (you gave him 2 luv)

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Adam poked your special spot. (he gave you 1 luv)
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You licked Adam's entire body. (you gave him 3 luv)

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Adam caressed your chest. (he gave you 2 luv)
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You fantasized about Adam's entire body. (you gave him 3 luv)

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You kissed Adam's special spot. (you gave him 3 luv)

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Adam teased you and said "I know we could ". (he gave you 2 luv)
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You winked at Adam and said "I wish we were closer.. I think we could have a lot of fun ". (you gave him 1 luv)

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Adam smiled at you and said "pennsylvania, why so far away. you should be closer ". (he gave you 1 luv)
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You smiled at Adam and said "I'm from Minnesota.. You?". (you gave him 1 luv)

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Adam smiled at you and said "where are you from?". (he gave you 1 luv)
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You smiled at Adam and said "That's good ". (you gave him 1 luv)

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Adam hugged you and said "much better myself now too!!!!". (he gave you 1 luv)
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You winked at Adam and said "Better now You?". (you gave him 1 luv)

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Adam winked at you and said "Hi, how are you doing ". (he gave you 1 luv)
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You hugged Adam and said "Hi you ". (you gave him 1 luv)

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Adam stole your underwear. (he gave you 2 luv)
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You caressed Adam's entire body. (you gave him 2 luv)

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Adam french kissed your lips. (he gave you 3 luv)
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You thought about Adam. (you gave him 2 luv)

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Adam fantasized about your entire body. (he gave you 3 luv)
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You french kissed Adam. (you gave him 3 luv)

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Adam massaged your entire body. (he gave you 3 luv)
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You showed luv to Adam's entire body. (you gave him 20 luv)

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Adam spooned with you. (he gave you 2 luv)
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Adam teased your entire body. (he gave you 2 luv)
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You caressed Adam's entire body. (you gave him 2 luv)
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Adam kissed your neck. (he gave you 3 luv)
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You flirted with Adam. (you gave him 3 luv)

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You kissed Adam's lips. (you gave him 3 luv)

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You smiled at Adam. (you gave him 1 luv)

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Adam tickled you. (he gave you 2 luv)

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You winked at Adam and said "Happy Valentine's Day ". (you gave him 1 luv)

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Adam kissed your cheek and said "Thanks, back at ya. Happy Valentines Day!!!!". (he gave you 3 luv)
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You kissed Adam's cheek. (you gave him 3 luv)

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You kissed Adam's cheek. (you gave him 3 luv)

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Id definitely be confronting her. That aint cool if you dont know this guy at all!

Dont be.... ANGRY. just. ask her what the heck is up. And if you dont know about her talking to him, why you dont know.

Alittle back story. This isn't the first time something of this sort has happened.. I have asked her to stop this type of behavior and she get irrate with me for not trusting her and then promises to stop. I never know what is going on with her. We have been together 11 years and got 3 kids together. I am at a loss with what to dso. Like I said she does not talk she yells. I am gone 5 days a week and this stuff only happens when I am gone. I have no friends really because I am either working or with wife and kids and am very confussed.

Originally Posted by Mooing Tricycle

Id definitely be confronting her. That aint cool if you dont know this guy at all!

It's even less cool if he DOES know him. Trust me, I know.

The only advice I can offer is....trust your instincts. Most men don't. I didn't, and I paid for it tenfold......

Marital counseling seems in order if she's willing to go through with it. I wish you the best of luck.

Originally Posted by TheFragginDragon

It's even less cool if he DOES know him. Trust me, I know.

The only advice I can offer is....trust your instincts. Most men don't. I didn't, and I paid for it tenfold......

Marital counseling seems in order if she's willing to go through with it. I wish you the best of luck.

no doubt. and that sucks....

John is right though. Trust your gut on this.

If this is bugging you enough to get upset over it, and its happened before.... but she loves you and wants you to trust her... i say she needs to stop, and stop now. Its just not right, regardless if she thinks its harmless or not, if its bothering YOU then its not harmless.

Thank you guys. I think I will just think about this for a little bit. I love her to death. I love my family and don't want my kids to have to deal with this or suffer. Thanks again.

Sorry Mooing "and gals"

Originally Posted by cm23

Sorry Mooing "and gals"

LOL its all good. Good luck, i really hope you guys work things out.

ugh.. 2 sides to all stories.. and it is not something any of us can really... understand.

I will say though, I am very flirtatious, and it is harmless.. and if I was told I couldn't be? I would be pissed, because it is a part of my personallity.

you can ask the people here who go to chat.. they see how I talk.. If I had a jelous type of a husband, it wouldn't be pretty. LOL

the things that you posted from facebook are stupid little applications that everyone has (except me cuz I think they are dumb) they give flowers, karma, kisses, blah blah blah to people..

the only thing that would raise an eyebrow is the last couple posts.

WHAT is the thing she has done before? talking flirtatiously to another person?? or was it something far worse?


After many years in a marriage.. people get bored.. people flirt..

the matter is.. do you trust one another to not go past flirting.. and that is something none of us here can tell you.. if YOU guys trust one another or not.

that is just MY opinion though.. I have been cheated on (by my ex) and I know it is NOT a fun feeling.. especially since I saw it coming..

talk to her about it.. don't yell at her, talk to her

just talk. see what is going on

good luck

If I saw something like that on my husband's Facebook (he doesn't have a FB acct but if he did) or on a text message of any kind it would be a real serious problem. I would not ever flirt like that with another man, online or otherwise.

I've been married to my husband for almost 9 years and we are not bored. If either of us ever got so bored that we felt the need to flirt like that with other people, it would be time to seriously reconsider being married. IMHO of course.