What do do when your spouse has an affair...

I was in a relationship like this for a long time. There were many excuses given as to why or how the circumstances prevented her from making logical decisions. It hurt a bunch everytime but I would always trust her and we would continue on.

After many times I could see how it was affecting me. I didn't want to hang out with friends, I didn't like being at work as I never knew what I would come home to, I had trust issues with friends, etc... After finally getting off of work early one day, I come home to find her in a comprimising situation with another guy. It took every ounce of will power to not cut them both into one inch cubed pieces and bury them in a shallow grave by the railroad tracks. Instead, I paid a month's rent at a storage shed and bought her a one way bus ticket to her moms city. She cried, I laughed. She cried some more, I made her get on the bus. I then proceeded to go out with some friends and learned that there are more deserving folks.

Long story short, don't be a doormat. If you don't take action, this evil gal will continue doing what she is doing. She has proven that she is not worth your trust or respect. Do yourself a favor and find someone who is.

I also wanted to say that making the move to get out of the relationship was difficult but the feeling of having that burden removed from your life is well worth it.