Personally, if the taxes are BOTH of yours ( meaning youre now filing jointly, which i dont believe happens until youre married anyway? could be wrong as im not married, nor do i have a fiancee) anyway, if theyre BOTH of yours then you both must SPLIT it.
Im sorry, but that whole, He pays for everything and she makes bare minimum dosnt work in this society anymore.
My boyfriend and i Split everything. Right down the middle. ( cost wise lol ) when we get 120 worth of groceries, we both pay 60 bucks. Same with bills and rent. that way, no one person is responsible for every darn thing. Its something we BOTH work at.
On the other hand, if youre filing your taxes seperately, Thats your OWN money. and its the same for him. Im getting tax returns this year, and my other half, isnt. That dosnt mean he lays claim to the money i get. not at all. Thats MY money, that i worked for, and ill darn well spend it on whatever i want! The same would go for him. Unfortunately for spending that cash, im going to be getting myself a car which is AWESOME, and my grand parents will be co signing a loan for me ( after YEARS of begging somone to...) so ive decided thats where that money is going to go...
You cannot expect him to help you get a car. But. you CAN expect him to help teach you how to drive. a man can only do so much. the rest has to fall on you, and youre willingness to help yourself. the same goes for him, if hes unwilling to help himself, and learn, then you might have to start rethinking things.
Im not asking mine to pay anything for this car im getting, its something that i have to do, for myself. Sure, well probably share eachothers cars and whatnot and help if the other needs help cash wise, but whats his is his, and he wont expect me to pay for it and vice versa.
if you want the boy to listen to you, you need to be able to talk to him about it. Sit him down, on the bed, or couch, and dont BLAME him. Dont point fingers. talk about how YOU feel, and what you think you both should do about it. Blaming a guy instantly puts him on the defense, and hell block out what youre going to say, even without actually hearing it. TRUST me. Ive got a Leo on my hands. ( im one too.. mind you)
Anyway, as for YOUR animals, thats your responsibility. Not his. My animals, are mine. i dont ever ask gordon to pay for rats/supplies for them unless i can pay him back. i never expect him to get that stuff either. Ill ask him to get me stuff if hes at the pet store THAT minute, but if he dosnt have the cash at that moment in time when hes getting a rat for his snake Kamaji, well im tough out of luck, and will have to go back on my own.
now. if this guy is just getting animals left and right and YOU'RE caring for them ( have to meaning..) then you have the right to say "No More!" and if he dosnt listen, then ditch him.
My Boy still has a say on what animals i get because we do Live together, this is our place and we both have to live here. if he ever ended up having to care for my animals, he would have every right to say. Get rid of them. when i get new critters, i ask, always.
At the same time, he understands that my animals are my thing, and so long as i dont go overboard with it, im allowed to get whatever. He has his computers lying about the place too, so its a win win situation for the both of us. Everything in a relationship has to deal with compromise, you have to be willing to work together AND separately on things but most of all, you need to be able to understand the other person and their feelings, and they the same for you.
ive been with my boy for three years, and weve certainly had our ups and downs at times, but its ALWAYS a work in progress.
Sorry that was kinda long...