how often to handle to make carpet nice and tame?

Moving her to a busier room will probably stress her. How long have you had her and how old/big is she?

If you put her in a busy room be sure to have dark corners, hides, and a solid back to the tank so that she can retreat to a secure corner if it is too much.

I have a different species, but keep them in my living room and they have settled very well. I feel it gets them used to movement around them without it always being a threat or a feeding opportunity.

However if you have a young child and there's a lot of running around it could get too much and disturb her more.

Okay well Ill keep her in the snake room but continue to work with her.I do have kids and dogs always running through the house so the living room might be a bit stressful on some days.But I do want her to get used to all kinds of situations, in a calm way if thats possible. I really really want her to be "dog tame" as they say.