This board, and the world, operate about the same; there are periods of quiet alternating with stormy weather. Sometimes, the thunder and lightening and all are just scary; other times they can be entertaining or beautiful.
Sometimes, during the stormy times that people have with each other, they can be moved to say things they might not ordinarily say. Usually, they are meant to hurt and often, they do.
If one steps back, takes a moment to take a deep breath and look, sometimes there is a kernel of truth in those hurtful words.
We none of us like to hear bad stuff about ourselves and the usual reaction is to be defensive which escalates behavior and it certainly shuts our mind to any insight the other person might have.
Someone, today, showed me something about myself here. Perhaps she is right.Sometimes the people who hold the mirrors may not be the most comfortable, but sometimes they lead us to good paths we might not have otherwise seen.
Lord knows you should not go looking for this kind of behavior, but when someone says something to you, about you, pretend they are a mirror and see if indeed there is a bit of yourself you think might be better done another way.
They may have given you a gift; but it is up to you to take it. We all grow as people throughout our lives; and growth happens sometimes in the most unexpected of circumstances.
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