In the long lived species (Grammastola being one of those
) the males will mature several years before the females. This prevents inbreeding in the wild. It will take females about 5 years to mature, males about 3.
I've bred perhaps 100 different species of tarantula, and tell everyone who asks the same thing - start with a pink toe. Very gentle breeders, hardy slings, and easy to get rid of the babies. Some of the bigger terrestrial females can be quite the handful when getting to know a male, and when pulling an eggsack for hatching. Kind of difficult for the first timer trying to get everything right.
Good luck with whatever you end up trying, and keep us all posted. And as always, feel free to ask any questions. I loves it when one comes along I can answer