Selective outrage can indeed be amusing, touche Skip : )
Using ShipYourReptiles, you are specifically allowed to ship to and from Residential addresses. With the normal FedEx Reptile Certification, you are allowed to ONLY ship Business to Business. And even more strictly, only ZONED Business addresses. Biz out of the house doesn't count. It is very specific.
Looking at the limited shipping pictures, and given Hooblah's, details, I don't see proper package labeling, which is a significant issue in these legislative and Snake Ban times. What an individual does reflects on ALL of us.
(Lacey Act specifies at minimum, that the box is labeled "wildlife". It doesn't mention anything about the popular phrasing "Live Harmless Reptiles" as meeting the requirement. Upon lengthy discussion with F&W folks, at SYR we recommend "Wildlife- Live Harmless Reptiles" to meet the minimum requirement AS WELL AS the easily understandable phrasing.)
What I do see is some poorly cut/fitted insulation. That defeats the point of the insulation, when you have ragged pieces and no tight seams to prevent temperature fluctuation.
Poor form on shipping box selection, from what I see. (and given our limited vision through these pics)
As for "handle with care" labeling and FedEx driver handling, you should pack your reptile safely and responsibly for the safety of the animal itself. Nothing you write on the box is going to get you special handling, treatment, or delivery on down filled pillows. The box will tumble and drop down conveyer belts and be stored upside down on shelves and in trucks no matter what you write on the box. That is the reality. Proper packaging makes all that a moot point.
You should rely on excellent packaging to protect your animal, not the hands of a delivery driver dropping off one of 2000 packages today.
Switching persona from professional shipper to professional breeder...
As for the condition of the snake, I would have returned it. All things considered, returned it. I don't want to see a bloody, rubbed nose. I think that is indicative of other stress and health issues. I see nose issues in the "before" ad pics. I would have assumed that was a going in/out of shed issue, but once I saw it worse in person, I'm out.
The seller offered a return. I would have taken advantage of that. Do I eat shipping both ways? Yes, if I needed to, returning it is my choice (as the buyer).
Once you started hedging your bets, and posting on various forums, you have apparently shut Richard down from further communication. Looks like he is not up to deal with you. Only makes it worse for both sides, but it is what it is.
As for the vet visit, that is on you. As a breeder, I am not interested in your vet, nor do I want to pay the cost.
I only use a vet for the MOST serious of issues. Nose rub, stuck shed, other minor issues are not one of those. But others like to go to the vet for everything. That is their choice. But I don't expect to be stuck with a $300 vet bill from your local Dog and Cat Vet because you are scared about an issue. Send it back to me, I can deal with it no problem. That is how I would approach it.
Of course, I would never send out a snake with a nose issue either. But still, you making the choice to incur $50, or $500, at a vet, that is on you. Send it back (as Richard initially offered) and it is $0 for the vet.
Apparently you are keeping the animal. I would set it up in a covered enclosure, and eliminate as much visual disturbance and stress as possible. I wouldn't want it to continue that nose rub. Great temps, hydration, a number of tight hide spots for security, and wait a week or two to feed.
Assuming there is no underlying stress/health issue that leads to chronic nose rub, the animal should recover fine, and be on the right track.
Don't let the drama of the situation, and posting, get you too wound up about it. It seems you have made your choice to keep it, so focus on getting her to 100%, and move forward. Lessons learned.
Best of luck!