I have set here and read this thread and I can only say .....WOW.
I have know in the past a girl that was abused but she kept it quiet and never told a soul, not even family. Until the day the abuse turn to her child, on that day she snapped and drove herself and child to the nearest police station. I am not here making judgments, I do understand that emotional abuse can and does make you a captive but once it get turn to you kids I would think it was time to run. Have you filed a case with you district attorny?
As far as Williams reply goes, I would exspect him to say that his ex was lying(I'm not saying he did it) He says that his ex-partner and he are still friends so anything the partner would say is suspect. It does however seem that I have seen several bad guy post about Carolina reptile exchange, is this the same one? I wish someone would just post some proof.
Now to the op, It would seem to me the the first thing you should have done would go striaght to the police not the B.O.I. If he is this monster (I am not saying you are not telling the truth) Instead of coming here and warning him to clean up his act and cages alone with this graveyard you mentioned you should have reported to the humane socity and have them handle it.
The one thing that sticks in my mind is that William mentioned that she has did this to him and several other EXs before.
I think that until some proof is shown that a grain of salt is taken with what either person says.