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For all the Single Ladies

Would you consider a long distance relationship?

  • Yes (if we have enough in common to possibly make it work)

    Votes: 7 53.8%

  • No (I have no desire for a long distance relationship... no matter what we have in common)

    Votes: 3 23.1%

  • Other --- PLEASE make a post and explain

    Votes: 3 23.1%
  • Total voters
    13
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Would you be willing to consider dating someone from another state (or the other side of your own state) if you were both into reptiles and had other things in common as well.
 
I am open to the possibility of having a long distance relationship with the right guy, when i decide to reenter the dating scene. I would have to feel a real connection with him, just a real heartfelt, omg, this guy is worth the effort. I also would like him to share my passion for reptiles, because all the guys i have dated, they just didn't understand my fascination with them:(
 
Ok.. long story short.. I met my (now) husband back when we were 14, when I lived in Minnesota.. A year later, my family moved to Wisconsin.. I lived in Wisconsin for 4 years, and happened to go back to visit some family in Minnesota, and ended up hanging out with Chris..

We got along.. he started driving the 4.5 hours (one way) drive to visit me in Wisconsin once a week..

Eventually stealing me from that state, and returning me to Minnesota, and marrying me and so on and so forth..

We just celebrated our 8 year wedding anniversary last week.. :D (that poor, poor man)



That all being said.. had he not been able visit me on a regular basis.. I cannot imagine things working out. No physical contact? It would be very difficult to feel "loved" when you can't even look into someones eyes, or hug them etc..

It is possible, but not everyone's cup of tea!!!.. just like internet dating.. I have a friend who met a guy on one of those dating sites.. they just celebrated their 2 year wedding anniversary recently..

*shrugs*
 
Any other ladies out there willing to take a chance? :)

Hmmmmm, it looks like guys are more willing to chance a long distance relationship than us ladies, just from a couple of comments i've seen on the other poll.

I think this phrase is fitting for this particular subject-

"Speak now, or forever hold your peace", lol
 
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I've dated a man that lives in Dallas TX for a while, I'm in NC. Overall it worked out pretty well but the big expense came in the form of airfare. We split after about a year and are still really good friends.

Overall not a bad experience if you have the time and mental fortitude for it.
 
Absolutely! Of course, there has to be some chemistry, common interests, and plenty of communication first. But what the hell? The only regrets should be when one doesn't take a chance :)
 
I voted No. There are always variables of course, but in general I have WAY too many trust issues to consider long-distance. I'm rather jaded and bitter.
 
In general, I would have said, "No," because there's a certain breed of man that seems to be trying to "have his cake and eat it too.":ack2:

However, to be honest, I met my last hubby online and not only were we in different states, we were different cultures:rofl:

He drove down to my place every EVERY weekend to pick me up and take me to his place, and on weekends when he was too tired to make the trip both ways, he would stay at my place.

I LIVE online, this is my primary mode of communication, so he had his cell phone switched to accept texts, kept his yahoo, and other IM messengers open and we talked ALL the time.

These things he did made sure that trust issues did not arise in our relationship. So if two in a LD relationship are willing to invest that kind of time and effort into making it work, I do not see how distance could possibly be a major factor in developing enough trust to make the relationship work.
 
I've done the whole Long Distance Relationship thing, and it eventually didn't work out for me. I don't think I'd do it again, just because I like to be able to hold whoever I'm with, and have a touchy/feely relationship. I like to hold hands, kiss, hug, and with a LDR, you can't really do that. Plus I have a hard time trusting people, so I have a hard time with LDRs, just because I don't like having a feeling of trust possibly being broken. (Yes I had this happen to me with the LDR that I was in, which is why I don't trust hardly anyone any longer.) So I'd say OTHER, on this poll. It possibly could work, but more than likely I wouldn't go ahead with one.
 
Heart4Dragonz said:
"Other" I'd rather shoot myself in the face than fall for someone again. It's always WRONG. :bandhead0 :bandhead0
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I feel bad for you. There IS a lot of wrong out there, but see here how a little piece of right is blossoming right here on our very own site.
 
lucille said:
I feel bad for you. There IS a lot of wrong out there, but see here how a little piece of right is blossoming right here on our very own site.
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I can't trust someone that lives 10minutes away from me, to actually be loyal in a 3yr long relationship. Long Distance, I'm sure I'd be a paranoid mess.
 
Heart4Dragonz said:
I can't trust someone that lives 10minutes away from me, to actually be loyal in a 3yr long relationship. Long Distance, I'm sure I'd be a paranoid mess.
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Amanda, I hear a lot of hurt. And your feelings are valid. No one will push you, here, to go too fast. Be part of our group and make friends. The rest may or may not come, but it will come when you feel ready.
 
Heart4Dragonz said:
I can't trust someone that lives 10minutes away from me, to actually be loyal in a 3yr long relationship. Long Distance, I'm sure I'd be a paranoid mess.
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Amanda... let me impart a little bit of wisdom from my own life.

I was engaged... and it was a long distance relationship. While we were engaged I found out she was cheating on me with a married man. IT DESTROYED ME!!!

It has taken me 10 years to get to where I can trust a woman again with my heart. Please dont go down that same road I did. I have missed out on so much.... I even missed out on a wonderfull woman because I could not open up and let her in.

10 years later... and I am trying a long distance relationship again... and this time I think I have found a wonderful woman that will like me.... for me. It has taken me a long time to heal... but I am willing to open up and give her what remains of my heart.

Please dont shut yourself down completely. I have been there... and I wish to god I hadn't.
 
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