Many people who read this poll have had previous relationships. Some relationships end amicably, some not; some are your idea, some theirs; some leave regrets for a few days, other separations hurt for years. Tell a bit about the last relationship you were in, and why it didn't work out for you.
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Breaking up: What went wrong?
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willykink
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night shifts suck
ive been on night shifts, either 2nd or 3rd, for almost 10 years now off and on and i can say it has had a detrimental affect on just about every single relationship ive tried to have over that time period, but i do stay out of the line of fire of the head honchos that work during the day for the most part so there is a silver lining to every cloud lol
ive been on night shifts, either 2nd or 3rd, for almost 10 years now off and on and i can say it has had a detrimental affect on just about every single relationship ive tried to have over that time period, but i do stay out of the line of fire of the head honchos that work during the day for the most part so there is a silver lining to every cloud lol
willykink
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but, as an adendum to the last i recently moved from ft laud to st pete florida and after doing so, my g/f, currently -ex, couldnt seem to land a job for 3 months straight even with my boss handing her a job on a silver platter so needless to say, the tension mounted and then there was the schedule thing(see post above) that helped end things very poorly 
robin d.
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he said " if i walk out this door im not coming back
i said "ok, thats fine"
he said " well i'm rollin"
he walked to the door grabbed the knob and stopped... kinda paused and waited
i said" get to rollin buddy... don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya"
and i flipped the tv station t0 watch the news LOL
one of the many things my momma taugft me ..... never lower youself to the point of begging
so i figured if he wanted to roll... then roll on out cause im not gonna stop him ... kinda stay or go but do something... sh!t or get off the pot kinda deal
i said "ok, thats fine"
he said " well i'm rollin"
he walked to the door grabbed the knob and stopped... kinda paused and waited
i said" get to rollin buddy... don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya"
and i flipped the tv station t0 watch the news LOL
one of the many things my momma taugft me ..... never lower youself to the point of begging
so i figured if he wanted to roll... then roll on out cause im not gonna stop him ... kinda stay or go but do something... sh!t or get off the pot kinda deal
riverjop
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Robin!!!!...your so dam cute in that picture!!!....how could anyone leave you?
P.S. Like my swimsuit?
P.S. Like my swimsuit?
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Once I make the decision to commit, I give it my all until I cannot possibly do it any longer.
My ex husband, after almost 5 years started not coming home for a week at a time. He'd call, saying he was on his way home from work and did I need anything, and then never show up...finally strolling in after a week. The first time he did it, I told him it was unforgivable and that it had better not happen again. The second time he did it, I said nothing because what was worse than something being unforgiveable. Then, Halloween morning of 96, we had our last argument. He left just after that and again I didn't see him for a week. When he walked in the door finally, I said, "Did you come to pick up your stuff?" He said, "Yes." I said, "Good." And, that was that.
My last relationship lasted almost 3 years and ended almost a year ago now. He was a military man, spent 10 years in and so I was the first woman he's ever lived with. It was also his first time in a parenting situation. Over the course of the relationship, he started out nice to the kids and gradually got more and more mean. When he crossed the line into abuse, he had to go. He had given a couple of hard spanks and I let him have it for that but the last time, he shoved my little one down to the floor for touching his flashlight. So, I got rid of the man and grandma gave my little one a flashlight of his own.
3 is a magic number for me. The first time, I can get over...pass it off as an accident, whatever. The second time, really pisses me off and I don't get over it. The 3rd time, it's bye-bye honey! If one makes the same "mistake" three times, it's no longer a mistake or an accident.
My ex husband, after almost 5 years started not coming home for a week at a time. He'd call, saying he was on his way home from work and did I need anything, and then never show up...finally strolling in after a week. The first time he did it, I told him it was unforgivable and that it had better not happen again. The second time he did it, I said nothing because what was worse than something being unforgiveable. Then, Halloween morning of 96, we had our last argument. He left just after that and again I didn't see him for a week. When he walked in the door finally, I said, "Did you come to pick up your stuff?" He said, "Yes." I said, "Good." And, that was that.
My last relationship lasted almost 3 years and ended almost a year ago now. He was a military man, spent 10 years in and so I was the first woman he's ever lived with. It was also his first time in a parenting situation. Over the course of the relationship, he started out nice to the kids and gradually got more and more mean. When he crossed the line into abuse, he had to go. He had given a couple of hard spanks and I let him have it for that but the last time, he shoved my little one down to the floor for touching his flashlight. So, I got rid of the man and grandma gave my little one a flashlight of his own.
3 is a magic number for me. The first time, I can get over...pass it off as an accident, whatever. The second time, really pisses me off and I don't get over it. The 3rd time, it's bye-bye honey! If one makes the same "mistake" three times, it's no longer a mistake or an accident.
Robin, you sound like a very strong person but that must have been a huge emotional tidal wave when he walked out;
Sybella, you have a lot of patience, I could not have had that strength to give it three times.
Brian, for crying out loud, one of these days you are going to get some common sense and not put your synapses in neutral just because she has a size D.....
Sybella, you have a lot of patience, I could not have had that strength to give it three times.
Brian, for crying out loud, one of these days you are going to get some common sense and not put your synapses in neutral just because she has a size D.....
Wilomn
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lucille said:
Any odds on that EVER happening?
AHAHAHahahahahahahHHHHHAHahhahahahahahahAHHAHAHAHAH
Sybella
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Which part, Wes?
TooManyBurmese
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The last relationship I was in (excluding the hobbit) I was dating the Biodome Character that Stephen Baldwin played. A total careless moron.
I payed the bills, I did the laundry, I cleaned, I did the dishes, I took care of all the pets (half were his), I reminded him to shave, shower, or bring lunch to work. I was his fooking mother!
Now when I date, I have a mental checklist:
1.) if they live at home with mommy, get in my car and go home
2.) if they can't have an intelligent conversation about something other than video games, get in my car and go home
3.) if they don't LOVE dogs, get in my car and go home
I payed the bills, I did the laundry, I cleaned, I did the dishes, I took care of all the pets (half were his), I reminded him to shave, shower, or bring lunch to work. I was his fooking mother!
Now when I date, I have a mental checklist:
1.) if they live at home with mommy, get in my car and go home
2.) if they can't have an intelligent conversation about something other than video games, get in my car and go home
3.) if they don't LOVE dogs, get in my car and go home
TooManyBurmese
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Lucille, you are so sweet! I wish you didn't live half a country away, I would love to hang out!
Sybella
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Danni...you're describing my ex husband!!! LOL!! BUT, at least my ex would massage me daily and cater to me. It was really nice.
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Sybella,
I also love to give daily massages and "cater to" is
my middle name (hinting hard here).
Danni,
Love the part about the dogs. I also say aidious to non-dog people. How can anyone not be a dog person? Don't say allergies as I would respond with Benadryl.
Kevin
I also love to give daily massages and "cater to" is
my middle name (hinting hard here).
Danni,
Love the part about the dogs. I also say aidious to non-dog people. How can anyone not be a dog person? Don't say allergies as I would respond with Benadryl.
Kevin
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I'm allergic to dogs and here I am with two again. LOL!! I had lost one in January so I was down to one dog. Finally another one came my way. I now have a 6 month old female German Pointer...and she's a sassy thing! When you scold her, she barks back at you. It's too funny!!
Yes...cater to...yum!!
Yes...cater to...yum!!
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This probably sounds a bit cold but when living together or being married becomes a bore because the guy is TOO settled in and doesn't feel the need to try anymore, that is when I say "out you go". I have to, I begin to look at them and despise them. It seems that every move they make begins to disgust me. I know then it is time to move on.
If the guy is not willing to put something into the relationship then neither am I. I am not into beating a dead horse. I make no bones about it. It doesn't feel good but the relief of stress from having him still around, watching him do nothing is WORTH it.
So I say buh-bye
This probably sounds a bit cold but when living together or being married becomes a bore because the guy is TOO settled in and doesn't feel the need to try anymore, that is when I say "out you go". I have to, I begin to look at them and despise them. It seems that every move they make begins to disgust me. I know then it is time to move on.
If the guy is not willing to put something into the relationship then neither am I. I am not into beating a dead horse. I make no bones about it. It doesn't feel good but the relief of stress from having him still around, watching him do nothing is WORTH it.
So I say buh-bye
Hi everyone and I'm new.
Just seen that the reason why me and my ex broke up isn't listed in the poll. Typical, I'm such a failure that my failings dont get a listing.
It's just been recent, so forgive me if I sound short. I dont mean it, really.
Just seen that the reason why me and my ex broke up isn't listed in the poll. Typical, I'm such a failure that my failings dont get a listing.
It's just been recent, so forgive me if I sound short. I dont mean it, really.
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You're such a failure that your failures don't get listed?? What?!?
What happened??
What happened??
I let her down. She had these hang ups about things and kept getting cold feet. I knew she loved me, that's why I always let her come back when she had her moments of doubt and ran away.
On one of those moments when she wasn't around I decided to open up to a friend about it all. Who promptly went and told her that I was saying trhings behind her back.
I broke her trust by not keeping quiet until she came back. We're now at the point of no return all because I trusted someone enough to talk too when I needed a friend.
I sometimes wonder if that relationship was worth it all.
On one of those moments when she wasn't around I decided to open up to a friend about it all. Who promptly went and told her that I was saying trhings behind her back.
I broke her trust by not keeping quiet until she came back. We're now at the point of no return all because I trusted someone enough to talk too when I needed a friend.
I sometimes wonder if that relationship was worth it all.