Someone I consider a friend suggested I come onto the boi and speak my side of the story.
Yes Dean and I have been having problems that have nothing to do with this thread. However I did lie to Dean about attempting to work things out with him over the past six months so I can figure out a way I can make it on my own and get back to Kansas City. When he made the deal with Chris, he thought we would be paying the bills together. I never gave him a reason to think otherwise. Life is more peaceful and less fights if I just made it seem like everything is ok. My reason for leaving had nothing to do with his business. I won't put all of Dean's business out there but I do know that my leaving has put a considerable financial hardship on him. His first priority is and always will be the health and wellbeing of his animals, which is where his money first goes. He no longer has an I-Phone, the only reason Utta was able to reach him on his phone is because I told him he had until the end of February to get the phone out of my name. He will more than likely be losing his business phone number, as we can't figure out a way to allow him to port it without me being stuck with the ETF. I can't speak on the communication aspect but I do know that since the seperation started I haven't communicated to people like I should in my life. For those of who, that have me on facebook, you will see my sister asking me if I still have my phone. (If you are reading this Kristyl, sorry I know I told you I misplaced my phone and I should of found time for my sister I know)
I know Dean and I have had our problems and some of them have been posted on this forum for the world to see. I can say for certain that Dean isn't a bad guy. He will make this right with Chris. He hasn't attempted to screw me out of anything and other then him telling me he is bitter and hurt I blindsided him he understands my reasons (which is noones business).
If you aren't going to screw your wife over in a divorce when your bitter and hurt, you aren't going to screw a business deal over. It is just going to take him time to get recouped financially now that he is doing it on his own. Anyone who has gone through a divorce I am sure understands.
Ok, so you lied to your husband. You didn't even give him a heads up when you knew he was getting these animals. You lied to your sister telling you that you lost your phone. You seem to have a problem with honesty. How can I believe anything that you say? Seriously.
Anyway, on to an update. A couple other people sent me PM's stating that they were in contact with Dean and that he lost my number and wanted me to text him today. I'm not sure what time zone he's in so I waited till after 10am eastern to text him. Messages are as follows...
Me at 10:56
Dean, I've had a couple people tell me you're saying you lost my number so here it is. I don't really know what else to say at this point.
Dean at 10:58
I an going to make things right chris i just did not have the means with this whole divorce issue i an having
Me at 11:01
So answer me this... Where is the money order for 900 that you said you sent?
Dean at 11:06
I have been out of my home since all of this went down in dec so i ended up using the refund to say to stay in a weekly motel so i could keep the snakes warm. All the utilities were in her name and shut off. I had on choice but to use the money
Me at 11:20
So you're telling me that you stayed in a motel instead of having your electric turned on? That makes no sense. And what's the reason you've been ignoring my attempts to contact you?
Dean at 11:20
I an not asking anything from you chris but to just trust that i an going to make this right is all
Dean at 11:24
My electric bill was 988.and the has bill which grou even turned on is still 75o.you bed that plus rent on a home among all of the other costs and i end up with no choice
Me at 11:24
I'm sure you can understand my skepticism so I guess all I can say is I'll believe it when I see it.
Dean at 11:25
This phone is in her name so she took it away from of for awhile
Me at 11:29
So with all this financial hardship you're having, how could you ever hope to pay me?
Dean at 11:31
I totally understand where you are coming from but at this point you have nothing to lose right. I will make things right with you but understand that i cannot respond on fauna until after the divorce is finalized.
Dean at 11:33
Well i an only in this until the divorce is finalized to see what i have to give up
Me at 11:45
Well you're right about that. I have nothing more to lose at this point.
Dean at 11:52
So just undertame that i an going to do everything in my power to get this situation resolved an i an not asking you for anything either. You can continue to post about me and all that i font case at this point. Not even asking you to understand. Just accept the money as i send it and i will start sending as early as next week even if it's only a couple hundred
Dean at 12:01
All i can really say is that i will do my best to send you like 2oo a week intil this whole divorce issue is over with and i figure what i dont jose
Me at 2:28
Dean, there's really nothing more for me to say now. If you do in fact start sending money, I will of course make that known as well.
Anyway, that's where we are right now. The typo's in his texts are his, not mine. I didn't include them as sarcasm or to poke fun. I just wanted the texts to be character for character the way they were received.
For those of you who want to believe in Dean, there's enough there for you to hold onto. For those of you who want to hate Dean, there's enough there for you to hold onto. As for me, I'm taking a wait and see stance now. As he said, I have nothing more to lose at this point and life is too short to spend all your time hating on someone. I have much better things to do.
