Aside from raw physical attraction (what? we need to look at MORE?) there are cues people give each other when they meet; and it is well recognized that most communication is non verbal.
It is not always easy to be aware of how and what you evaluate when you look at others. Here are behavioral cues that I think are important to me:
Clothing: I have dated both poor guys and very wealthy men and really it doesn't matter to me whether they wear designer clothing or jeans. It does send negative cues to me when someone is not clean, or if they wear stuff that is wrinkled or torn.
Eyes: This is one of the most important cues for me. Negative cues for me are people who look down or away, showing no self confidence. and alternatively those who use their gaze to stare or challenge. I want someone who looks confident but not hostile.
Interaction with others: When I am on a date, I can tell a lot about a person by how he treats other people when he is with me. How does he treat the restaurant staff when he orders food? How does he treat friends we might meet together? Not the content of what he says, but how he says it is what is important in this evaluation.
OK, how about y'all: What sorts of behavioral cues do you think are important to YOU when you are sizing up new acquaintances?
It is not always easy to be aware of how and what you evaluate when you look at others. Here are behavioral cues that I think are important to me:
Clothing: I have dated both poor guys and very wealthy men and really it doesn't matter to me whether they wear designer clothing or jeans. It does send negative cues to me when someone is not clean, or if they wear stuff that is wrinkled or torn.
Eyes: This is one of the most important cues for me. Negative cues for me are people who look down or away, showing no self confidence. and alternatively those who use their gaze to stare or challenge. I want someone who looks confident but not hostile.
Interaction with others: When I am on a date, I can tell a lot about a person by how he treats other people when he is with me. How does he treat the restaurant staff when he orders food? How does he treat friends we might meet together? Not the content of what he says, but how he says it is what is important in this evaluation.
OK, how about y'all: What sorts of behavioral cues do you think are important to YOU when you are sizing up new acquaintances?
