kggjr
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I had to have veterbra removed from my neck a week ago, which meant I would be down for a while ( I can not pick up anything over the size of a coke can for a month and then limited to 10 pounds for 3 months) Anyway we were suppose to have gone to see my in laws but this come up so I would not lose the nerve in my arm. My in laws decided to come here to help ( WE DID NOT want the help)We have tow children one who is autistic I had already made plans on how to handle everything. My church was going to help with staying a couple of hours a day with the kids and were going to bring meals for a couple of weeks knowing I was not going to be able to pick up pots and pans, ( husband works nights and took off one week but went back this past Sunday) just wanted to give a little background.
Here is why I am so upset when I was in the hospital my mother in law took it up on herself to throw away our ironing board, broom she didn't like it, also our placemates (she wanted plastic ones instead of the material ones), she them got rid of some of my lamps (these were my mothers who died in 1994 they meant a lot to me.),she then changed out my cabinets and put everthing were she wanted it ( very very agitating she moved everything).
When my church friends called to say they had made meals to bring over she told them that they were not wanted that it would be taken care of and for them not to bother me right now.
On top of that they didn't watch what the kids were doing like they should have, they let them out back without supervision (BIG NO NO). When I got home I was drowsy from all the meds, so I went to my room I had a cervical collar on and was told not to do anything at all for a week, because the bone graft would need time to start to grow. She came in my room I had only been home a couple of hours and told be to get up lying around was not going to help me. 
To make a long long story short the women from my church called told me what she had said yesterday ( they left yesterday) I told them she did not fix anything and that I has to finally end up cleaning up after them and the kids plus do some other things I wasn't suppose too, my husband tried to help me the best he could, but she wouldn't listened to him or her husband, I finally told them that they had to leave I needed to rest, it through our son into meltdowns ( he is autistic) because she tries to make him be normal, which you can't she says we need to spank it out of him or he will grow out of it.(NO HE WILL NOT) that's what I say to her.
Anyway I didn't type the whole thing just getting back on the computer and want to take it easy.
Good news my church family is helping already since they left with meals and coming to clean the house and take the kids to the movies etc. (we have a special needs department at church and our son loves it there so they are the ones helping with the kids) Thank God for that
Sorry I had to get some of it off my chest just very frustrated
Here is why I am so upset when I was in the hospital my mother in law took it up on herself to throw away our ironing board, broom she didn't like it, also our placemates (she wanted plastic ones instead of the material ones), she them got rid of some of my lamps (these were my mothers who died in 1994 they meant a lot to me.),she then changed out my cabinets and put everthing were she wanted it ( very very agitating she moved everything).
When my church friends called to say they had made meals to bring over she told them that they were not wanted that it would be taken care of and for them not to bother me right now.
On top of that they didn't watch what the kids were doing like they should have, they let them out back without supervision (BIG NO NO). When I got home I was drowsy from all the meds, so I went to my room I had a cervical collar on and was told not to do anything at all for a week, because the bone graft would need time to start to grow. She came in my room I had only been home a couple of hours and told be to get up lying around was not going to help me. To make a long long story short the women from my church called told me what she had said yesterday ( they left yesterday) I told them she did not fix anything and that I has to finally end up cleaning up after them and the kids plus do some other things I wasn't suppose too, my husband tried to help me the best he could, but she wouldn't listened to him or her husband, I finally told them that they had to leave I needed to rest, it through our son into meltdowns ( he is autistic) because she tries to make him be normal, which you can't she says we need to spank it out of him or he will grow out of it.(NO HE WILL NOT) that's what I say to her.
Anyway I didn't type the whole thing just getting back on the computer and want to take it easy.
Good news my church family is helping already since they left with meals and coming to clean the house and take the kids to the movies etc. (we have a special needs department at church and our son loves it there so they are the ones helping with the kids) Thank God for that
Sorry I had to get some of it off my chest just very frustrated
My neighbor has had similar issues with his own son. He went into the hospital and his son came up and started throwing away stuff that his father "didn't need". Not too constructive when one is trying to recover and they are frustrated and angry. Sorry to hear about this happening to you. At least your Church is helping you more than the in-laws.