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Hanky Panky

It's the end of the evening on your first date. What do YOU expect? (More than 1 OK)

  • I give a nice hug and say good night.

    Votes: 5 15.6%

  • Depends on how the date went, I might invite them for coffee

    Votes: 6 18.8%

  • I expect that they come around, open the car door, escort me to my door and say good night.

    Votes: 2 6.3%

  • If there is 'chemistry' I expect a first hot kiss

    Votes: 9 28.1%

  • I expect the person to PUT OUT

    Votes: 4 12.5%

  • Especially if I paid for dinner, etc.

    Votes: 1 3.1%

  • I'm usually there until morning.....

    Votes: 4 12.5%

  • I expect an invitation for a second date

    Votes: 7 21.9%

  • What date? It was paid for, she got what she wanted and I did too

    Votes: 1 3.1%

  • If the person is nice, I can stand at the door and talk for hours....

    Votes: 11 34.4%

  • That she won't tell on me, lol...

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I expect him to be a gentleman and give me one sweet gentle kiss

    Votes: 2 6.3%

  • If they were not what I expected, I still expect a nice evening and good manners

    Votes: 7 21.9%

  • I expect them not to pass out on the front steps

    Votes: 4 12.5%

  • I play it as it goes, I have no preordained expectations

    Votes: 23 71.9%
  • Total voters
    32
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OK, we haven't had a good, fun Lonely Hearts poll in a while. This one explores first dates, and that awkward moment when the two of you say 'Good night'...... :)
 
Since I was a teenager, I practiced the "Gene Simmons" approach to dating. As I've gotten older, it takes alot more stimulus to ring my bell. Getting laid is easy. I can't say I know of anyone who doesn't like sex. If I ask someone to go out it's because I really like them and want to get to know them better. If the date goes well, and if "the great voyage around the world" comes up, i'll get tickets. If the date goes well and it doesn't happen, that's ok too. If the date doesn't go well (for me) and the subject comes up anyway...it's evaluated on a case by case basis (L). Sleeping w/ someone who likes you when you don't like them isn't a very nice thing to do. If the date doesnt go well for either...I don't expect anything except a mutual understanding that it probably wasn't meant to be. :D

It just depends on what's on our minds when it's getting close to saying, "Goodnight", but we all know that "Hanky Panky" is on everyone's mind. It's natural. It's in the minds of the masses lol.
 
SPZOOLOGICAL said:
Since I was a teenager, I practiced the "Gene Simmons" approach to dating. As I've gotten older, it takes alot more stimulus to ring my bell. Getting laid is easy. I can't say I know of anyone who doesn't like sex. If I ask someone to go out it's because I really like them and want to get to know them better. If the date goes well, and if "the great voyage around the world" comes up, i'll get tickets. If the date goes well and it doesn't happen, that's ok too. If the date doesn't go well (for me) and the subject comes up anyway...it's evaluated on a case by case basis (L). Sleeping w/ someone who likes you when you don't like them isn't a very nice thing to do. If the date doesnt go well for either...I don't expect anything except a mutual understanding that it probably wasn't meant to be. :D

It just depends on what's on our minds when it's getting close to saying, "Goodnight", but we all know that "Hanky Panky" is on everyone's mind. It's natural. It's in the minds of the masses lol.
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Ok where do I start with this one.. Many of the same views EXCEPT sleeping with someone you don't like when they seemingly like you. Granted you get stalkers such as I did, but damn sex is sex for the love of god. Why do women have to view it is some step in a commited relationship?? And what is the big deal about getting caught screwing a chicks friend for that matter? If she wasn't wanting it it would have never happened...... Right???? So why get bent over a small infraction like that? At least it wsn't a sister(this time)....
 
For that matter, Brian, why do some guys seem to take it as an acceptance of a marriage proposal? Gal I knew slept with this one guy, just once, and next thing she knew not only was he stalking her but telling everyone he knew they were engaged! I'll definitely PASS on the set-up attempt for that particular nutcase.
 
BallPyFan said:
For that matter, Brian, why do some guys seem to take it as an acceptance of a marriage proposal? Gal I knew slept with this one guy, just once, and next thing she knew not only was he stalking her but telling everyone he knew they were engaged! I'll definitely PASS on the set-up attempt for that particular nutcase.
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:D :D :D :D
If a man has sex w/ a woman and determines it to be an engagement. IT IS! Nope. No, 2 ways about it. It's a "Man's World", Katrina. IF "we" can live by these laws....so can you :D

Ah ha ha ha ha ha ha ha! Ahha ha haha ha ha (I'm detecting flames already)

Sean
 
BallPyFan said:
For that matter, Brian, why do some guys seem to take it as an acceptance of a marriage proposal? Gal I knew slept with this one guy, just once, and next thing she knew not only was he stalking her but telling everyone he knew they were engaged! I'll definitely PASS on the set-up attempt for that particular nutcase.
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Trust me I don't feel that way and never have. I got married because "settled" for less than I should have and was getting tired of the club and party scene. Didn't work out and I highly doubt I would ever do it again. And if I do that "Stuff" better be damn gold plated and diamond encrusted. ;)
 
Yeah, the worst part was she tried to pawn him off on ME :rofl: Yeah like that half-brained nutcase kid would survive LOL. Sean, I would beat ya for those remarks but I can tell you would enjoy it WAYYY too much :dgrin:
 
SPZOOLOGICAL said:
If a man has sex w/ a woman and determines it to be an engagement. IT IS! Nope. No, 2 ways about it. It's a "Man's World", Katrina. IF "we" can live by these laws....so can you
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the only stalkers I've had have been the ones that I refused to sleep with! But I sure have a long string of broken engagements then. *shrug* where are the rings???? I want some precious stones, cheapskates!
 
Sean, hope you keep the king cobras in a separate room than the hanky panky, lol.... :D
 
I'd have to say I have no expectations, considering I'm just now considering dating again for the first time since high school- I really have no idea what to expect!
 
lucille said:
How has that been going, Shannon?
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Hasn't really been going at all. :) Not that that's a bad thing- I'm ok with learning to live on my own. I'd rather date someone I had known for a while than to go out with someone just to have someone to date.
 
i dont like going out with friends...at least in a dating sense. if something goes wrong later on i usually end up losing the friendship. not that ive ever lost a friend but i kinda like having them. besides, not dating a friend means not having the other person tell all my other friends about me.
 
I never thought about it that way, Rob, but you do make a good point. I guess I'll have to rethink my strategy. :D
 
I've never had expectations of a first date. Nothing worse than the disappointment. But, I have had a date that lasted four years. Does that count?
 
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