Internet dating 101

[AbsoluteApril]

moving to whatsapp is a common tactic romance scammers use, esp overseas scammers, so it's just a known thing to try to keep communication on the dating platform. I can't say specifically why but it's just a known thing that dating scammers do. Also know that scammers can and will keep convos going for months before they start asking for anything. I'm sure you know a lot of that already but just be careful is all. Also worry a lot about someone just looking for a green card. One of my good friends is encouraging me to try overseas dating (specifically because there is another country I'm very interested in moving to) but I'm unsure, it seems any dating app I look at is just scammer stuff and I don't know what I would trust lol plus the majority seem to be targeted for "passport bros" aka men looking for foreign women :/

 

[WebSlave]

Well, everything seems to be a gamble. I have been contacted from a number of women claiming to be in New York, Ontario, or Los Angeles that are very personable, very intelligent, and downright fascinating in their online personality. Most will immediately contact me via video chat, invariably showing an oriental woman, quite attractive, sitting behind a desk with a shelf of expensive looking knick-knacks behind them. Obviously real from hand motions and every other tell you would use. Usually keeps the conversation brief, so obviously just to establish credibility. Time span from this video chat to the sales pitch of investing in gold or cryptocurrencies can vary from a couple of days to a couple of weeks. All the while holding up her end in very intelligent and interesting topics.

Another method the above begins is with an apparent wrong number. This invariably leads her to act interested in me, apologizing for the wrong number but claiming what a lucky coincidence that we should meet like this. Now when it happens I just play with them a bit, pretending I am actually the person they are claiming to be trying to reach. Of course they immediately know the jig is up and will leave. But some still persist and I have to play dumb and tell them how lucky I am to have finally met someone real this way and not the usual oriental beauty trying to get me to invest with her. That usually kicks them to the curb.

No as for this girl in Thailand, yes, I suppose there could be a possibility she just wants a ticket to the USA. But I can't figure out what sort of angle it would be. I have had many video chats with her, translator in hand, and either she is genuine or a damned good actress. She is VERY animated and acts more like a teenager with a brand new boyfriend than anything else I can think of. She sends me spontaneous selfies, something NO scammer has ever done, simply because they cannot without a lot of effort and planning. We started chatting on AsianDating.com, then moved to WhatsApp, then when we connected profiles on FaceBook, we do nearly all of our chatting through there. She will use WhatsApp to video chat me, however.

Heck, I dunno. Maybe I am just chasing rainbows. Or else hoping a rainbow will touch down in my own front yard. The love of my life has died. Maybe I am just looking for something I will never find again. But if I don't look, I will never find.

 

[AbsoluteApril]

I hope she is your new pot of gold

 

[WebSlave]

I hope she is your new pot of gold

Time will tell, I suppose. Might be good for me to get away for a while. A bunch of notable dates coming up over the next few months that I am not keen on spending alone. Thailand might be a nice place to visit with someone there to show me around. If that woman wants to follow me back home, heck, why not?

 

[WebSlave]

Well.....

I had a really wonderful time in Thailand for 3 weeks. I spent every moment there with the woman I went there to meet. Her name is Pim. Met most of her family and friends. Everyone treated me like royalty. Pim treated me like someone she had been waiting for her whole life. Everything she told me while we were communicating online proved to be true. Everything she did put me first and foremost. And yes, she came back with me to the USA and is staying with me for 3 months. Then she will be going back to Thailand for 2 months to do what she calls "missions", and then coming back to me for at least 6 months.

When I first started looking into the online dating stuff, nearly all my friends said I was wasting my time and would come away disappointed and disillusioned. And honestly, for the most part that was proving to be true. But I stuck it out. My argument was that I was real and looking online, so certainly there HAS to be a woman I would find somewhere that was at least acceptable. I knew there had to be a light at the end of that tunnel, albeit quite distant and faint. But this Pim is turning out to be much better that I had ever hoped for. Honestly, had I sat down and jotted notes on the perfect woman I would hope to find, she would check off nearly all of the options. I would be hard pressed to design such a woman for myself.

So I guess all I can say about internet dating is that although it is chock full of trials and tribulations, scattered with mines and bear traps, perseverance is the key. There is a really good chance that there IS someone out there for you. You just have to look hard enough and long enough. Pim says she was looking for me for 7 years. It only took me 6 months or so to find her. So I am lucky. But had I known it would take 7 years to find her, I would have stayed the course and kept on plugging away.

Am I jumping the gun and jumping to premature conclusions? Possibly. But if she is acting, she deserves every academy award ever presented to an actress. Maybe I am just naive, but NO ONE can be THAT good at play acting.

I found an incredible woman. I found what I am looking for. Quite honestly, if this turns out badly, I will give up and choose to live the rest of my life alone. As it will be incredibly obvious that I am incapable of seeing through such a play act and will not ever choose to possibly make that mistake again.