Maybe it is lack of sleep or maybe it is lack of booze, but I just had a moment of clairity. You know one of those moments you have in life when you look back and things actually make since. Well believe it or not I just had one of those moments. Granted this moment was clouded with pissed off ex's and numerous mornings when I woke up and didn't know where the hell I was or who the hell the chick next to me was, but it is clear now. Things make since to me now for some reason. Years of high expectations on my behalf have jaded my view of the opposite sex. Should I lower said expectations knowing no woman alive could possibly meet them? Yes but what expectations should I have now? I sure am not using any ex's as a mold as that would be wasteful. Any ideas and or input you may have will be great as I need diffferent views to compair and make a final judgement on.
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Moment of clairity??
- Thread starter bcfos
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sirenofthestorm
ineffable
You already have my list of what I think needs to change to eliminate your melodrama... I can repeat it for you if you like 
But I'm interested to see what everyone else has to say too.
But I'm interested to see what everyone else has to say too.
1) learn to spell: e.g., clarity
2) Be yourself, everyone likes you, Brian
3) If I could change anything (which I cannot) it would be
a) When you are through with someone, be gentle, make her feel good, it only takes a few minutes and it is an art you need to learn to make life calmer.
b) You have to drink less or your liver will kill you before some outraged chick will (see section a).
2) Be yourself, everyone likes you, Brian
3) If I could change anything (which I cannot) it would be
a) When you are through with someone, be gentle, make her feel good, it only takes a few minutes and it is an art you need to learn to make life calmer.
b) You have to drink less or your liver will kill you before some outraged chick will (see section a).
Laura
New member
How about learn how to respect. (this might mean you need to hang out with people you can respect) This might be cheesy, but treat others the way you would like to be treated. From what I've read of your posts Brian, you have a lot of ex's, and they are all ex's for a reason of course. Perhaps you should try to find someone respectable. Just my 0.02.
sirenofthestorm
ineffable
here here, laura. I think Brian can respect women, just not the ones in his past... and some in his present I'm sure.
beakgeek
I'm a Tangerine Baldy
Brian
As someone who was married for 11 years and then divorced I think I might be able to shed some light. In the course of two years I was single, I dated about 20 different women. A good portion of those were 1-2 dates. Mostly, things did not work out after they found out I had a daughter from a previous marriage, and then suddenly had no interest; despite initial physical attraction.
From reading your posts I gather that to you women are trinkets/prizes for you to dominate. You need to realize that there are LOTS of very intelligent and attractive women out there that are probably what you would consider "hotties", but you have yet to figure it out. You need to take some time off and figure yourself out. Only after that can you truly figure out what you really want, and will be able to be in a caring, giving realtionship.
Women are just like men, despite some current male thinking, they want to be loved, cared for, and participate in a good relationship. Good relationship = loving, caring, understanding, appreciating, and providing sexual satisfaction(i.e. reading your partner and giving them what they desire).
Anyone can be be a slut - man or woman. A person who knows themselves well enough to engage the opposite sex in a stimulating, exciting relationship is a true find. Good luck in your seach.
Regards,
Terry
As someone who was married for 11 years and then divorced I think I might be able to shed some light. In the course of two years I was single, I dated about 20 different women. A good portion of those were 1-2 dates. Mostly, things did not work out after they found out I had a daughter from a previous marriage, and then suddenly had no interest; despite initial physical attraction.
From reading your posts I gather that to you women are trinkets/prizes for you to dominate. You need to realize that there are LOTS of very intelligent and attractive women out there that are probably what you would consider "hotties", but you have yet to figure it out. You need to take some time off and figure yourself out. Only after that can you truly figure out what you really want, and will be able to be in a caring, giving realtionship.
Women are just like men, despite some current male thinking, they want to be loved, cared for, and participate in a good relationship. Good relationship = loving, caring, understanding, appreciating, and providing sexual satisfaction(i.e. reading your partner and giving them what they desire).
Anyone can be be a slut - man or woman. A person who knows themselves well enough to engage the opposite sex in a stimulating, exciting relationship is a true find. Good luck in your seach.
Regards,
Terry
beakgeek
I'm a Tangerine Baldy
Lucille
I was raised by an Irish Catholic mother who taught me that everyone is created equal. I'm just trying to follow Mom's lead.
Regards,
Terry
I was raised by an Irish Catholic mother who taught me that everyone is created equal. I'm just trying to follow Mom's lead.
Regards,
Terry
It will not work, if done that way. It's like 'I can try the low carb diet and see if I lose weight'.
Respecting people, all people, except ones who do grievous harm to you or others, is a way of life and a world view. It is not something like playing bridge that can be attempted and discarded.
It is a good thing you are making the effort. Mostly this board is very lighthearted; but occasionally serious matters are broached. This is one of them.
Respecting people, all people, except ones who do grievous harm to you or others, is a way of life and a world view. It is not something like playing bridge that can be attempted and discarded.
It is a good thing you are making the effort. Mostly this board is very lighthearted; but occasionally serious matters are broached. This is one of them.
Laura
New member
It seems to me (just from reading your posts) that your past girlfriends weren't exactly what I'll call "top quality" character-wise. What I was trying to say is find yourself GOOD woman, and treat her with respect. If she is a good woman, she will do the same to you once she sees she has something good. IMO, ditch the strippers and such, they are not and probably never really will be worth your time. There's roughly 3 billion ladies on the planet, Again, just my 0.02
Again, just my 0.02kiote9
Mental Pause
Dragging up an old thread, but I find Brian fascinating.
Perhaps you might try not to have romantic relationships. They don't work for everyone, not that anything does.
Just have female friends that you can have a physical relationship with. Tell them upfront that they can't change you, can't own you, tell them what your limitations and expectations are. If you tell people exactly what you want and a little of what you are they can either rise to the challenge or run like hell. It leaves the choice up to them. Alleviates the guilt of not having it "work" and having to end the relationship. No real responsibility, but you can't let them get too close either. If you associate with people who have similar wants and needs you eliminate alot of hassle.
I don't know if you have that masculine "knight in shining armor" thing going. I have noticed that some men are compelled to save a damsel in distress, only to find that once she has been saved she becomes a she-bitch from hell. Damsels needs to be in a situation that requires rescue and knights always need to rescue someone. There can be no satisfaction if this path is chosen. Don't be the knight, be the king. If you aren't up to being the king chose the ace of diamonds.
Perhaps you might try not to have romantic relationships. They don't work for everyone, not that anything does.
Just have female friends that you can have a physical relationship with. Tell them upfront that they can't change you, can't own you, tell them what your limitations and expectations are. If you tell people exactly what you want and a little of what you are they can either rise to the challenge or run like hell. It leaves the choice up to them. Alleviates the guilt of not having it "work" and having to end the relationship. No real responsibility, but you can't let them get too close either. If you associate with people who have similar wants and needs you eliminate alot of hassle.
I don't know if you have that masculine "knight in shining armor" thing going. I have noticed that some men are compelled to save a damsel in distress, only to find that once she has been saved she becomes a she-bitch from hell. Damsels needs to be in a situation that requires rescue and knights always need to rescue someone. There can be no satisfaction if this path is chosen. Don't be the knight, be the king. If you aren't up to being the king chose the ace of diamonds.
Ken Harbart
New member
You may want to check out some of Brian's more recent posts, then. "Round about February he showed his true colors, including threatening to hack Fauna's server and delete posts.kiote9 said:
Not to mention ripping the reputations of others, and comporting himself in a totally unprofessional manner when he disagreed with the choices made by others. If you were ever to meet such a person, it would be a meeting of two powerful personalities; I myself would not want to deal with someone who has done what he has done, here.
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kiote9
Mental Pause
I'm not looking for a personal relationship with the man. I just find him very interesting. I also find Wilomn to be fascinating. Also...what was his name.....damn, have to find it. Loved his posts, though it's been a while. Keith Northrop! Loved reading what he wrote.
I like to talk to people like that...for a while. Then they seem to disappear into oblivion. Interesting people.
Interesting doesn't mean anything more than......interesting.
I like to talk to people like that...for a while. Then they seem to disappear into oblivion. Interesting people.
Interesting doesn't mean anything more than......interesting.
Interesting is a good start.
I think that to some extent, everyone has something notable about them, and definitely one can learn from each person one meets.
That being said, there are those who for whatever reason, stand out; who are thoughtful and different. I believe that it is most worthwhile to achieve a personal relationship with those kinds of people as far as a continuing friendship.
There are those with behaviors that are so damaging and unacceptable that one who might be one of those interesting people must perforce be left behind, but in general, knowing one of these people is a privilege.
I think that to some extent, everyone has something notable about them, and definitely one can learn from each person one meets.
That being said, there are those who for whatever reason, stand out; who are thoughtful and different. I believe that it is most worthwhile to achieve a personal relationship with those kinds of people as far as a continuing friendship.
There are those with behaviors that are so damaging and unacceptable that one who might be one of those interesting people must perforce be left behind, but in general, knowing one of these people is a privilege.
kiote9
Mental Pause
lucille said:
This is how I see you, Lucille.