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I am so SICK of people who think its their duty to piss on other people in forums.. Not like, put them in their place for obvious reasons.. Moreso, just find someone because you can and aggravate the Hell outta them! I walked away from another forum last month because of this person, took time off, and came back last week..Well, they picked up right where they left off harassing me for no damned good reason. I have contacted the owner of the forum several times with proof of this harassment and the verdict.. "IF you feel you are being harassed, I will talk to him"..IF? WTF~! Do you not read where he blatantly points out how worthless I am and all the things I do wrong vs being a good Senior member and helping along those who are not as WISE as he apparently thinks he is?I wanna know when being a jack ass Know it all became popular and cool? Just goes to show that if putting people down is the only way to make yourself feel better then maybe YOU need to get some help dude.. Seriously.:hot::hot:

Whew..
 
No help from mods?

yeah, spill...what forum? I want to make sure I stay away from it.
If the mod(s) on that one seem reluctant to do anything, maybe you should take your 'business' elsewhere...:yesnod:
Have you pm'd this person about this, or is it strictly verbal bashing on the open forums? If you've pm'd him/her and gotten the same response, I think I'd walk away from it.
 
If going to the moderator doesn't make it better, then I'd leave. The alternative is to give it back just as bad, to show that it's happening, and have the moderators forced to do something. But that could cause them to ban you as well.
Unfortunately every site has at least a few jackasses, that do nothing but use poor language and fling poo. On the site that I help moderate, people like that are banned immediately, and not allowed back.
 
You sound upset, and I would be too.
I agree with what some of the others said, just leave places like that.
It's not worth the aggravation.

Come here instead :)
 
I have contacted the owner of the forum several times with proof of this harassment and the verdict.. "IF you feel you are being harassed, I will talk to him"..IF? WTF~!

If other people don't see it as being as obvious as you do, I have to wonder who's perception is inaccurate. You have presented us your perspective of the situation but in doing so you revealed that a moderator on that other forum didn't regard it in the same way. Your inherent bias as a participant may be causing you to be wrong in your judgment.

Do you not read where he blatantly points out how worthless I am and all the things I do wrong vs being a good Senior member and helping along those who are not as WISE as he apparently thinks he is?

Are you posting bad, inaccurate or dangerous information as care advice?

Because if you are, I'd nail you to a wall too. I am not forgiving of people who try to teach without actually comprehending the subject. People stack up mounds of self serving platitudes to excuse this behavior but it's hardly an excuse for spreading misinformation that someone more competent and qualified will have to come along and correct. All the good intentions in the world do not make up for spreading ignorance that endangers another person's animal.

If this other person's behavior is accepted by the moderators and your complaint is found to be without merit by them, I am forced to wonder if he's contributing something of value while you're doing the opposite.

I wanna know when being a jack ass Know it all became popular and cool? Just goes to show that if putting people down is the only way to make yourself feel better then maybe YOU need to get some help dude..

Being a jackass has been directly linked to popularity since before we came down from the trees. Our socialization as a species is a very thin coating of logic, reason and goodwill covering up our inherently baboon brains and behaviors. Simply put, a dominant individual can get away with harassing a less dominant individual because the less dominant individual lacks the ability to make them stop or the social support to cause a general rejection of the behavior. A dominant individual will also go out of their way to make sure less dominant individuals- especially but not exclusively those who are potential rivals- are harassed to reinforce their relative social positions.

It's unlikely that he's putting you down to make himself feel better because he has a negative self image. If anything the act of bullying supports the idea that he has a positive self image which is socially supported by his ability to get away with the behavior. The "he probably feels bad about himself" is something the parents of bullied children say in order to soothe the wounded egos of their precious defective offspring but there's no real basis for the statement. It's a band-aid, not behaviorism.

'course if it's something you heard often enough to believe then I am again forced to wonder why you think it's logical to assume that other people are the problem- if people are constantly attacking, mocking and belittling you, it would seem that You are the common element in those situations. Stop being a wimpy monkey,; bare some teeth, steal some food and fling poo with the alphas.
 
"Stop being a wimpy monkey,; bare some teeth, steal some food and fling poo with the alphas. "

I'm stealing that. Just letting you know, so when you see it's gone, you know where it went.
 
Yikes..Maybe you are him in disguise? :rofl:

Eh, the forum isnt necessary..It is an informational mainly, nothing I cant live without.. Its one person whom has apologized after I chewed him out and made him see how wrong he was by letting him in on how hurt I truly was by the BS. The mods did reprimand him. It was the administrator who didnt see it as an issue, yet I have 3 other Longtime members come to me and agree that it was wrong and chastised him for it.

I was venting.. and Im not a monkey, nor would I ever touch Poo.. .:NoNo
 
And just some basic info.. This person follows me thread to thread ripping apart anything i say. whether its informational or even PERSONAL that he would have no clue about.. I could say HI and it would be shredded.. then sends me PMS. I asked him both publicly and privately to leave me the hell alone.. I even saud F off once too.. He just kept at me. I put him on ignore, but it didnt matter. Even though I couldnt see him responses, others could. Then I vented on there and called him out on it. I did delete it though thinking no one would see it and I didnt want him to be put in the same position I was by bashing him and making him feel lower than me..So I sucked it up and decided to be the bigger person..Well apparently he read it and felt terribl. he apologized. I havent spoken to him at all however..I find it fake and unbelievable. I forwarded every message and comment to the mod who reprimanded him. He then forwarded it to the admin who said he didnt see any issue with it..Im over it.. I just dot really give a monkeys poo anymore..:thumbsup:
 
That's right, don't let 'em get to you! Kick the dust off your feet & move on.
Besides, you just won a Bissell--he got nothin on you, girl!
 
Yikes..Maybe you are him in disguise? :rofl:

I doubt it.

Is the tone of my post the kind of thing you saw from this other person? A straightforward presentation of another viewpoint? A conflicting opinion presented in a manner which addressed the points that had been made?

If so, then that supports my idea that your perception of "harassment" may be substantially removed from what most people would consider to qualify.

Its one person whom has apologized after I chewed him out and made him see how wrong he was by letting him in on how hurt I truly was by the BS.

Definitely not me then. I'm not about to change my opinion or stop disagreeing just because someone cries at me about it. I'm also disinclined to apologize unless I really feel as though I have done something wrong, which generally means proving that the initial conclusion was inaccurate.

I was venting.. and Im not a monkey, nor would I ever touch Poo.. .:NoNo

Most people are far more monkey than they like to admit. Our egos do not make it easy for us to accept the idea that a great deal of our behavior is a result of the same instinctive responses and social triggers that are present in lower species. It just gets filtered through an ability to conceptualize abstracts. Fight or flight responses take place every day in board rooms, locker rooms and homes all over the world. Individuals play the part of dominant or submissive apes, right down to much of the same body language and facial expressions. The way we deal with others, the way we perceive social interactions... Nurture ain't got nothin' on nature and we're about three steps removed from pounding on our chests and baring our teeth to scare other people away from our food.

If you're unable or unwilling to stand up under the system of behavior that governs us all and demand your respected status within the baboon troop- by flinging a little poo when it's absolutely necessary- then you can expect to be the omega forever. You may want to come up with a better system for dealing with your feelings of inadequacy and submission than whining about it to people who can't fix it for you. If you don't, you'll probably be unhappy quite a lot.
 
Seamus: You scare me...

Tiger: Thanks. The Bissell is rockin and used on a daily basis and the dogs are adament that mud belongs on the carpet!

This issue has been resolved. We have both decided to let bygones be bygones and be big kids. Thanks for the input and for allowing me to blow off some steam, even if I did receive some fire back..:thumbsup:
 
Glad to hear it! Just remember, though, sometimes 'friendly fire' isn't all bad--after all, doesn't it kind of force us to look at a situation from a different point of view? After, of course, we get over the angry 'ooh, I can't believe they said that to me' part!
 
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