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Rude people in Real Life

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Yesterday at work I had the opportunity to hear unbelievably rude comments from a parent after spending hours helping her child. She has been rude to me and to others before so I was not necessarily being singled out for special treatment.
I coped by saying nothing in her presence. Sort of like trolls on a bulletin board, she was inviting dispute and I wasn't going to give it to her.
I sure sounded off afterwards, though, to some of my friends.

How do y'all cope with rude people in real life?
 
How do y'all cope with rude people in real life?
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If it's an isolated incident I will ignore it. In a professional environment, I will ignore it and/or be as tactful as possible. If someone has crossed the line then I will bring them somewhere private and calmly blast them. This always gets an apology because people are not used to being handled quietly and firmly. It is, however, very rare to have to go there.
 
I deal with alot of this in my daily interactions. Angry, upset, and downright rude people.
I try to see their side of the issue. I try to understand what got them to this point. Then deal accordingly. I have found that most of the time they simply need an ear and a shoulder. Hardly ever is the true issue what they are yelling about, that second.
I guess it is just something about the Mom in me. LOL
 
i usually remain calm...this is where my good patience quality kicks in....if you make them feel like you understand what they are angry about and you are genuine about it..they tend to feel bad and calm down..and staying optimistic through the whole ordeal helps out too,,,and look them in the eyes when talking calmly to them...it works for me.
 
Cope? Calm? Ha, not me. Rude people set me off. They rank right up there with people that don't control their kids in public. I used to bite my tongue and be polite, until one day I spent 2 hours in a movie theatre with a 7 year old kid kicking the back of my chair for 2 hours and the parent doing nothing. When the movie got over I snapped and told the father off all the way to the parking lot, I haven't been the same since. LOL!! :rofl:
 
I'm very passive aggressive, and I have a belief that the way people act will only get returned to them in the future. It has always held true for me. So, I normally will just ignore it and go on with my life. I have very strong buddhist beliefs. My fiance will defend himself (and me) though, and he's usually a little loud about it. If someone does something rudely, he makes sure they feel like an idiot for doing so. I usually hide if he does that.
 
It has been my experience that when you encounter rude people, depending on the subject they are ranting about, I will either ignore them or ask them if they have been stupid all of their lives. This usually shuts them up. I will correct people on their rude manners in public, especially if they effect me.
 
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I will correct people on their rude manners in public
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Folks get shot for less in Texas :ack2: , although being assertive about other's behavior when it encroaches on one's own rights would seem to be an appropriate solution.
 
old beginner said:
I deal with alot of this in my daily interactions. Angry, upset, and downright rude people.
I try to see their side of the issue. I try to understand what got them to this point. Then deal accordingly. I have found that most of the time they simply need an ear and a shoulder. Hardly ever is the true issue what they are yelling about, that second.
I guess it is just something about the Mom in me. LOL
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ladyserpent7 said:
i usually remain calm...this is where my good patience quality kicks in....if you make them feel like you understand what they are angry about and you are genuine about it..they tend to feel bad and calm down..and staying optimistic through the whole ordeal helps out too,,,and look them in the eyes when talking calmly to them...it works for me.
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Obviously you guys are made of sterner stuff than I.
I don't rant, but I'm not tactful either.
 
I deal with rude people in different situations, different ways

MOST of the time, they are trying to get a reaction so what they get is NO reaction. drives them nuts. ha ha and no matter what stay calm. I find taking the "parental" stance of "now now, that's not polite, or necissary" really gets them ha ha

At work, I am very fortunate because my boss knows that we work hard, and have great work ethic so she tells us upfront that we in no way have to deal with people being rude to us, and we are at liberty to tell them to leave. When people are rude to me in the work place, I usually brush it off, but when it gets to a level in which they are borderline abusive, or think that because they are in a retail setting the employees will just "take it" I am quick to tell them that they are being innapropriate and to leave. They often ask for my name... and give them that, my boss name, number and best time to come into to talk to her. I have yet to hear from any of them again.

What is really great about that, is that if you remain calm, and they become more biligerant, they usually do a very good job of shaming themselves, in public no less.
 
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