sschind
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we all need a little patience.
In the past year I have been involved in three deals that have taken much longer to resolve than they should have, almost a month in two cases, almost 2 in the other. In each case there was a great lack of communication on the other persons part. They didn't answer emails and I couldn't get through to them personally on the phone. Each time I was tempted to go to the BOI and I know that with the facts presented most of you would have been on my side. Still, I waited and each of the three cases were eventually completed the way I wanted (if not the way they started.) Was I upset that I had to wait? sure I was. Was I nervous that I was being ripped off? of course. Still, I feel much better that I didn't take these to the BOI. Why, because it would have solved nothing. I doubt I would have gotten results any faster because I believe that the other parties in each case were being honest. I don't think they were trying to rip me off, I think they were just being irresponsible.
There are instances where timeliness is very important but if you need something that bad how did you ever let yourself get in that position in the first place. Maybe the reason you need the money back right now is the same reason why the other guy needed it in the first place. I know, you are going to say "the reason I need it right now is because it is my money" and you are right, but if you need the money back that bad what are you doing spending it on herps in the first place. If you need that particular money to spend on a herp that you need to replace the one that the original seller couldn't provide, I still say if you need the money back that bad what are you doing spending it on herps in the first place
I agree that it is irresponsible to spend the money before the customer is completly satisfied, but as far as this comment goes
Maybe thats what they are doing. Maybe they are selling off their reptiles to pay off a serious unexpected debt. Maybe they can't wait a week for a buyer to decide they really don't want the animal and come up with a lame excuse why they want their money back. I can't really think of a reason why people would need money that quickly, other than maybe to pay off an over eager loan shark, that they wouldn't have family or friends to fall back on, but there may be cases.
Still, what I generally see on this group is a bunch of people that are so eager to get their money (yes it is their money) and are so unwilling to give people a chance to make things right that they come on here and start letting things fly. No, I don't have a magic number as to what would be an acceptable length of time. As has been discussed in other threads, that is up to the individual. All I can say is that I can think of at least a dozen people off the top of my head that would have posted any one of my three cases here after a week of waiting, let alone 3 or 4. and I highly doubt if it would have made any difference in how the matter was settled, and even if it had been settled a week sooner, two weeks later what would the aggravation have gained you. In most insatnces nothing. That is unless you enjoy making people out to be crooks when in fact they may just have fallen on hard times.
What does this all mean? nothing really, just an observation and an opinion. Do people like that make me angry? not really, I just feel that personally I like to give people a chance, and obviously I have a higher tollerance for waiting. Not everyone does and there is nothing wrong with that it's just that I think if you give people a chance you will feel better in the long run. Of course if you are the type that needs insatnt gratification, it will probably kill you to wait and that wouldn't be good either.
I am not pointing any fingers, and I am not accusing anyone of anything. I am not claiming to be better than anyone else because I have a higher tollerance for waiting (it may a detrimental in some instances) I am just making a harmless observation and voicing my opinion. This is similar to the jumping the gun thread (or at least the way that thread started out) so it may not garner much interest but I have spent almost 1/2 writing it so I would appreciate it if someone would respond, even if it is to rip me a new one.
Steve Schindler
Steve Schindler
In the past year I have been involved in three deals that have taken much longer to resolve than they should have, almost a month in two cases, almost 2 in the other. In each case there was a great lack of communication on the other persons part. They didn't answer emails and I couldn't get through to them personally on the phone. Each time I was tempted to go to the BOI and I know that with the facts presented most of you would have been on my side. Still, I waited and each of the three cases were eventually completed the way I wanted (if not the way they started.) Was I upset that I had to wait? sure I was. Was I nervous that I was being ripped off? of course. Still, I feel much better that I didn't take these to the BOI. Why, because it would have solved nothing. I doubt I would have gotten results any faster because I believe that the other parties in each case were being honest. I don't think they were trying to rip me off, I think they were just being irresponsible.
There are instances where timeliness is very important but if you need something that bad how did you ever let yourself get in that position in the first place. Maybe the reason you need the money back right now is the same reason why the other guy needed it in the first place. I know, you are going to say "the reason I need it right now is because it is my money" and you are right, but if you need the money back that bad what are you doing spending it on herps in the first place. If you need that particular money to spend on a herp that you need to replace the one that the original seller couldn't provide, I still say if you need the money back that bad what are you doing spending it on herps in the first place
I agree that it is irresponsible to spend the money before the customer is completly satisfied, but as far as this comment goes
Maybe thats what they are doing. Maybe they are selling off their reptiles to pay off a serious unexpected debt. Maybe they can't wait a week for a buyer to decide they really don't want the animal and come up with a lame excuse why they want their money back. I can't really think of a reason why people would need money that quickly, other than maybe to pay off an over eager loan shark, that they wouldn't have family or friends to fall back on, but there may be cases.
Still, what I generally see on this group is a bunch of people that are so eager to get their money (yes it is their money) and are so unwilling to give people a chance to make things right that they come on here and start letting things fly. No, I don't have a magic number as to what would be an acceptable length of time. As has been discussed in other threads, that is up to the individual. All I can say is that I can think of at least a dozen people off the top of my head that would have posted any one of my three cases here after a week of waiting, let alone 3 or 4. and I highly doubt if it would have made any difference in how the matter was settled, and even if it had been settled a week sooner, two weeks later what would the aggravation have gained you. In most insatnces nothing. That is unless you enjoy making people out to be crooks when in fact they may just have fallen on hard times.
What does this all mean? nothing really, just an observation and an opinion. Do people like that make me angry? not really, I just feel that personally I like to give people a chance, and obviously I have a higher tollerance for waiting. Not everyone does and there is nothing wrong with that it's just that I think if you give people a chance you will feel better in the long run. Of course if you are the type that needs insatnt gratification, it will probably kill you to wait and that wouldn't be good either.
I am not pointing any fingers, and I am not accusing anyone of anything. I am not claiming to be better than anyone else because I have a higher tollerance for waiting (it may a detrimental in some instances) I am just making a harmless observation and voicing my opinion. This is similar to the jumping the gun thread (or at least the way that thread started out) so it may not garner much interest but I have spent almost 1/2 writing it so I would appreciate it if someone would respond, even if it is to rip me a new one.
Steve Schindler
Steve Schindler
