Most of the relationships forged in the chat room here are the work of LONG term communication. Many of them also have had business transactions that contributed to real world trust. I have dealt with a few people in the chat room, either buying or selling. They trust me and I trust them. They in turn have done business with others who they then form a bond with. If one of those that I have worked with vouches for someone because they have done business with them, or know them personally, it is easier to work that new person into my web. I have been going to the chat room since 2002, with only a couple of people that still remain now. I trust many people that go there because they have gained my trust either directly through transaction, or indirectly through transactions with my friends.
Lena is not the only one who has come into the picture in the recent past and welcomed into the crowd without any kind of reputation. Somehow (and this is beyond me) she managed to make herself part of a family. That never sat well with me, and I feel the same with the whole batch of newbies (although in time I can grow to "know and trust" them, it doesn't happen because they are hot or cool), no offense to them.
I would be hurt if one of the people I have formed bonds with were to somehow screw me over. I can't say that I would not look at it and say "I should have seen that coming", but we make the choice to let our guard down. I am shocked at what little it takes for some people to let others in.
Lena lied. That speaks to her character. Has she tried to get anything from anyone using her lies? Not that it makes it any better, but other than hurt feelings, what were the outcomes of her untruths? I could say that I ate a banana for lunch, and unless someone catches me in the lie, does it hurt anyone? When someone finds out I lied, does it hurt them if I didn't use the lie for personal gain and they are out something? Sure, I would be labeled a liar, and you may not want to do business with me, but would that be grounds for a BOI post? Are we posting every lie low?