Thanks everyone so much for all the info, I was away a few days so i didn't get to read all of the replies..
just finished reading
I will try to get to everything witghout leaving out info, and give an update plus the plan for the next fee days.
for the bloddwork, I honestly don't know why/what reason they had for not feelibng it was needed ?? I will ask again next time i bring her in.
I haven't force fed or tub fed yet, but I did try to feed normally a small rat pup, i was sure she was going to take it, was out, smelling it and roaming all over it.. but in the end she left it there.... soooo i tossed it out the next morning, figured maybe she wil eat it over night..
as for the tube feeding, i'm still on the fence about witch route to take.
My initial feeling was as April said, that it would be less stressfull ??
I have no problem knowing where the tube should go in, that part is easy.
It's the rest that i'm reading on, more precisely is how far in is it safe to release the food..
from what i read, the tube should go in about 3/4 of the ways down, then i should feel restriction, this means i'm at the stomach...
so at tghis point, do i releas the food or do we need to go slightly in more to inject inside the stomach, or is releasing the food at the entrance the way to do it ???
the way i would set up is, suck the amount of food needed from the tube it self, there may be no food in the seringe itself since it will be all inside the tube, this way no air would be injected and the total amount desired would go in..
unrelated to snakes, but i've been keeping salt water reef for over 20 years now, all the testing and additives are done this way, when dosing, you have to factor in the air space taken from the needle or the tip, you find yourself with an air pocket inside the seringe between the plunger and the fluides, this is normal, you all know this, but when helping out others, many don't know this and fill, tap to get the air out and then refill the ex: 2cc mark
with a small 0.5 cc seringe it may not make a big difference but with bigger ones and certain meds , one could overdose.. I know that in salt water testing, some test are thrown completly off if this is done..
so using a 36" + long tube full of food there may be none inside the seringe, but it would all be inside the tube.
thanks for all the videos, watching them all , and some i've seen before
update on the snake, well she hasn't eaten yet, but the soakings seem to help out the hydration part, her skin seems to fit her body now ( if this makes sense)
she started looking like a pug

the redness /inflamation has gone away, traces are left as if the blood dried ??? and with her last shed, it isn't visible all that much.
most of her dry scales are getting better.
along with the soakings, after 15 mins in luke war water, I add pavidone (betadine) solution to help..
the RI seems to be gone now, and the last 2 pees she had , her sent gland went back in on it's own.... that alone is a stress factor gone... i think it was related to her being dehydrated.
don't get me wrong, we aren't out of the woods yet !!! until she starts feeding and gaining weight back, i'm extremely nervous about her final outcome, at least now things are looking a little better..
looking forward to any and all info you may add, feel free to share experiences as well, I would never consider it an ijack

but good info to read.
thanks you all so much again
Steph