Sorry but this is gonna be a lonnnggg post
Ok, I skipped a few pages to tell my part in this nightmare.
I have been a member here for a really long time, I've witnessed the best and the worst in people over the years and I've seen alot of folks come and go.The words 'drug addiction and bring it" have been thrown around alot in this thread and I will address that shortly. I have a long history with Chuck and not all of it was good. He and I put our past disagreements behind us and became good friends.
Those of you that remember know that I have always been an opened book, on the forums and off. I have no onscreen persona, I'm the same all the time. I have shared my own story of drug addiction and recovery, I've been clean and sober for 21 years and counting. I am also college educated in the field of addiction.
Chuck contacted me by phone 5 years ago and needed to talk about addiction and get my professional opinion as well as personal on the subject. We talked for a while on the subject and I gave him the imformation to the best of my ability that he was looking for.
Most of you know that I have not been around here for a while, I had my own personal trials that I needed to get through and I didn't want or need to drag anyone down with my own tails of whoa. That and for some reason I can't get into chat anymore because of my ip provider. (I'll post about that in the appropriate forum for help on later date)
When i returned after my short absence is when I learned about Chuck, he was still alive and I was exchanging pm's with Maggie about updates on him, but mostly about her. The spouses in most cases seem to get left behind when we as a group that love someone is in trouble. So my focus was on Maggie and how she was holding up and how I could help her.
I spend alot of time on facebook and Christine would start a chat with me, we ended up talking on the phone and I genuinely liked this young woman. We shared many phone calls,in the beganing it was about the auction, then Chucks death, and the later ones on christines concern for Maggie and her emotional stability. she told me that Maggie didn't seem to have the time for her anymore, that Maggie was very depressed and feared for her life.
The term "bring it" has come up a lot in this thread. those were my exact words to Christine last night before this thread started. I believed her when she told me her side.She sent me the pm from Maggie, we talked on the phone 5 times in the last 2 days. I was lead to believe that Maggie was tring to extort maney from chirstine. I told her that if she had all of the paypal and other receipts as proof to tell Maggie to "bring it" I was almost convinced that the money was sent and possibly spent on drugs, it never occurred to me that the drug use was on Christines side!
I am a trusting and loving woman, that's who I am, my world is "rose colored" alot of the time. Those who really know me, accept that flaw in me. I seem to attract the scumbags of the world. I have now befriended and discarded 3 from this forum. Christine is number 3.
After taling with Dave (DAND) for a long time today and Maggie this evening, I got the other side to this story. I am deeply saddened by the turn of events here. I still believe in this community, I feel that there is strength in numbers!
I sent Maggie a small paypal, I would love to see others do the same. It feels really good to be here (home) again and the name calling and anger will not get Chuck and Maggies kids to summer camp so she can keep her job. I'm in agreement that the wide family needs to pay and pay big, but Maggie and her kids are my main focus.