I have no intention of becoming anyone's "defender-in-chief" here. Bill issued an apology. I took it to mean an apology for all of the things mentioned in the first thousand or so posts in this thread. He apologized for taking "our" collective trust and abusing it. Take it for what you will.
I see that there are three general categories into which he might fit.
- always been a liar, a thief, and a scammer and just got caught this time
- was a straight shooter, scammed Lee, got caught, did a terrible job trying to lie his way out of it, and now wants to make amends
- was previously a straight shooter and now has permanently crossed over to the "dark side of the force"
I have a hard time with number one seeing as how in all of this time no one has come forward to even
suggest that Bill stole from or scammed them in any way. So, for me, it's down to the second or third possibility. Maybe Bill knows, maybe he doesn't, but sure as hell none of us do.
Would I deal with Bill? I am not really a "Boa guy" but
if I were and
if he were offering an incredible deal on visible morphs I
might consider buying on approval with no cash sent up front until I received the snakes and determined that they were healthy, feeding, and otherwise as described. Hets? No way, no how.
Before you all tell me I am a "softy" let me ask you each some questions:
- How many of you have been unfaithful, even just once, in your primary relationship?
- How many of you have had a significant other (spouse, lover, etc.) be unfaithful?
- How many of you have been forgiven or forgiven the other person?
- How many of you have "best friends" who you know to have been in one position or another? or a parent? a sibling? A business partner?
- Have you disowned any of the above associates for their actions? Has their spouse or significant other ended the relationship 100% of the time?
I ask this because to me marital fidelity is a very strong indicator of character but I also understand that relationships do not begin and end on the basis of a bad decision. Character is another issue of course.
Forgiveness is a choice, albeit perhaps a highly overrated one, and in no way implies trust is restored. It simply means that people go on with their relationships and give the other party the opportunity to make amends and perhaps
earn that trust back.
Let's not forget that our president probably misled us (is "misled" a nice way to say "lied"?) about the Iraq/al Quaeda/Saddam/bin Laden/WMD connection and we collectively forgave him, and entrusted him with another four years.
Is what Bill did worse than what a cheating husband did? In the eyes of the law, yes. But this is a court of public opinion, not a court of law.