I'm done

[KelliH]

The solution is simple, although it can be painful. You must remove all the toxic people from your life, even those that have been a "friend" for a long time. I've been in a similar place as you and that is what I finally had to do in order to regain my happiness. I get much joy from being kind to other people and helping them out in any way I can. I still do this but I go into it not expecting anything in return, and I am also extremely careful about allowing anyone new into my inner sanctuary (my life!).

 

[DAND]

I'm going to come over there and tan your behind, grasshopper.

Threatening me with a good time at a time like this I think is a little inappropriate don't you? (well I guess I still have my sense of humor)

Pull yourself out of this funk you got yourself into.

I'm working on it dear but my arms are tired.

You KNOW that you are a good person. The person you helped turned and bit the hand that fed her. Does that reflect on you? Of course not.

Correct, I know the kind of person I am, I am an asshole (now watch me get warning points for calling myself an asshole) but I'm the nicest asshole you'll ever meet and no one's differing opinion is going to change that. But that isn't what is bothering me. I just can't quite put my finger on it. It's in my perifferial view but as I turn it to see it it is gone.

You are entitled to your feelings, I'm not saying you aren't. But you got to shake this. All of us like you and appreciate you. I guess I'm not understanding why the great weight of positive comments is not erasing the bad experience from someone who should have behaved better (heck if she had behaved better you wouldn't have had to do her this favor in the first place).

I'm trying to shake this but just ain't letting go. It'll eventually hit me, the who, what, where, when and why this damn thing is hanging around but it is currently eluding me.

Why let someone elses words weigh you down?

Alicia if I knew that I wouldn't have had to of started this thread. I can't explain it. It has just gotten under my skin. It's not like I give a rat's ass what anyone thinks of me. Dave likes Dave. If you don't like Dave then you can kiss Dave's ass. And if you really don't like Dave you can get in line again. Season passes available soon. Get your frequent pucker card today!

If this person dosnt appreciate you... you KNOW that... so why continue to bother with them?

I don't.

Lucille, I got your back when you go to tannin' his hide...I feel like this is an appropriate time for the scene with Cher & Nicholas Cage (though obviously not for the same reasons) where she slaps him in the face and yells, "SNAP OUT OF IT!"
(This is purely for dramatic effect & is in no way meant to promote domestic violence!)

Troi, I'm tryin'. Believe me you, I'd much rather be in a happy place then where I am.

Dave, do you really want to have Lucille whoopin yer butt??? WHAT CAN WE DO TO HELP? Lord knows there are enough of us here that don't like to see you like this!

Well I've tried just about everything but a butt whoppin', so maybe? If I knew what it would take to shake this I do it, ask for it or go buy it if it were possible. It's like a stain on the carpet, I don't know how it got there and I'll be damned if there is a cleaner that I've tried that will get it out. But, I guess it's kinda like what I said to this girl (mind you this was many a year ago) in reference to the quarter she swallowed while playing quarter bounce, "this too shall pass."

 

[DAND]

The solution is simple, although it can be painful. You must remove all the toxic people from your life, even those that have been a "friend" for a long time. I've been in a similar place as you and that is what I finally had to do in order to regain my happiness. I get much joy from being kind to other people and helping them out in any way I can. I still do this but I go into it not expecting anything in return, and I am also extremely careful about allowing anyone new into my inner sanctuary (my life!).

Kelli, it easier said then done. Especially when determining the potential "toxic people" is as difficult as shaking this funk I am in. Is Joey going to become a douche bag or am I booting a good person out of my life? Yeah, it's easy after the fact but by then it's too late. Of course it's a no brainer that once you screw me you have lost membership to the Dave club.

I don't go into helping someone expecting anything in return but when you tell me you are going to do something then by God you had better do it. I have zero tolerance for liars.

I too am careful about letting people into my life but a seemingly good person can always be deceptive and the determination of good versus bad is not as easy as just making a visual inspection. Were it as easy as that things would be a lot easier for us all. As it is I have very few people in my inner circle and were I to raise said standards I would become a very lonely person who spent my whole day on the internet.

 

[KelliH]

As it is I have very few people in my inner circle and were I to raise said standards I would become a very lonely person who spent my whole day on the internet.

How sad. :-( I hope you will have the good fortune to welcome some decent and loving people into your life someday that will love you as much as you love them, and that truly appreciate your devotion.

I am very blessed to have a wonderful husband, wonderful children and fantastic parents and siblings (not to mention the rest of my family!) that love me. I have a couple of friends that are practically family as well. I am never alone, although sometimes I am lonely, there is a difference. Overall though I feel loved and appreciated by those that matter.

((HUG))

 

[Mooing Tricycle]

Dave, you just need to come into chat. I think you would find you like quite a few of the people in there ( maybe not all!) but over the years, theres a group of us, its always growing, and any of us would do anything we can to help the others.

Come hang out! Online stuff isnt that bad ( But i understand wanting REAL life people to trust too....)

 

[Shadera]

Dave, the things you're writing read like the story of my life. Well, except the a-hole part. I'm a raging myself. (rhymes with "ditch"..LOL)

You aren't alone in how you feel at all. Some of us are just more sensitive to others, and wear our hearts on our sleeves. I'd do anything for the folks I care about, and more times than I care to think about it's gotten me kicked in the face when I'm down or totally walked on. I just drag myself back to my feet and go do it again, it's just the way I am I guess. There's someone I suspect using me right now, ignores my emails, doesn't return my calls, but wants a good deal on an animal I have. I don't know why I can't put my foot down, or even better in their hind end. I'm giving up trying to be friendly though, it gets me nowhere.

I'd love to have more folks in that inner circle, but everyone I've ever cared about has let me down. I'm pretty quick to sever ties with people who hurt me, especially if they lie. Oh man I can't handle a lie. As a result, pickings are pretty slim when I feel like calling up a friend. Okay, so maybe I have no one I can call, so I come here.. /pityparty Maybe I just ask too much?

You got a pal here in WV if ya need another one. I'll try to make it to the next show so I can meet you and introduce myself. We could be Emo together. LMAO

 

[crotalusadamanteus]

You gotta learn to just not give a damn about them. When you truly don't give a damn about them anymore, nothing they do will bother you ever again.

It's not hard, but it takes a little practice. Sticking to the things that are REALLY important in your life helps a bunch.

 

[DAND]

How sad. :-( I hope you will have the good fortune to welcome some decent and loving people into your life someday that will love you as much as you love them, and that truly appreciate your devotion.
((HUG))

Thanks Kelly. Unfortunately I am about to give up on that ever happening. It seems like every time I let someone into my life they crap on me. I'm done getting crapped on. I guess I'll just stick with the three that won't crap on me; Me myself and I.

Dave, you just need to come into chat. I think you would find you like quite a few of the people in there ( maybe not all!) but over the years, theres a group of us, its always growing, and any of us would do anything we can to help the others.

Come hang out! Online stuff isnt that bad ( But i understand wanting REAL life people to trust too....)

Thanks Alicia for the invitation but it's unlikely to happen. I wouldn't be able to keep up in Chat. Most of you may not know but I have been suffering with chronic pain for well over a decade and between the nerve problems I have with my upper extremities and my back troubles sitting here and trying to type in a Chat setting probably isn't in my future. I'm not saying I won't give it a try but don't be disappointed if it doesn't work out. Maybe if I can find my headset and voice activated software.

Dave, the things you're writing read like the story of my life. Well, except the a-hole part. I'm a raging myself. (rhymes with "ditch"..LOL)

Give it time you'll become one too.

You aren't alone in how you feel at all. Some of us are just more sensitive to others, and wear our hearts on our sleeves. I'd do anything for the folks I care about, and more times than I care to think about it's gotten me kicked in the face when I'm down or totally walked on. I just drag myself back to my feet and go do it again, it's just the way I am I guess. There's someone I suspect using me right now, ignores my emails, doesn't return my calls, but wants a good deal on an animal I have. I don't know why I can't put my foot down, or even better in their hind end. I'm giving up trying to be friendly though, it gets me nowhere.

I'd love to have more folks in that inner circle, but everyone I've ever cared about has let me down. I'm pretty quick to sever ties with people who hurt me, especially if they lie. Oh man I can't handle a lie. As a result, pickings are pretty slim when I feel like calling up a friend. Okay, so maybe I have no one I can call, so I come here.. /pityparty Maybe I just ask too much?

You got a pal here in WV if ya need another one. I'll try to make it to the next show so I can meet you and introduce myself. We could be Emo together. LMAO

Shadera, I'm sorry that you are sharing in my similar experiences with others. I was wondering who was helping me row around in circles. Makes sense being in the same boat in all I guess.

I have had the same thought, maybe I'm just asking too much. I guess I just have too high of standards and expecting others to have the same standards (or at least some) only leads to disappointment when I yet again go out of my way to help someone out who doesn't understand common courtesy.

Well I will certainly be looking forward to meeting you in person. (just don't get arrested after leaving the show, please)

You gotta learn to just not give a damn about them. When you truly don't give a damn about them anymore, nothing they do will bother you ever again.

It's not hard, but it takes a little practice. Sticking to the things that are REALLY important in your life helps a bunch.

Richard I wish it were that easy. It's not really the "care about" part. I just can't put my finger on it. It's more past the bothering me point it's more like it's bothering me that it bothered me and that I don't know why it did. If that makes any sense? Any other time I would have laughed my ass off at the ridiculousness of it.

 

[Lucille]

You better get ready for an ass whoopin, boy. You KNOW that there are those here who care for you and won't let you down. And we're not gonna let this thread die down until you're on the way up. By God you're going to be happy even if we have to beat it into you

JK. (Maybe).

Have you ever considered chemical imbalances and that sort of thing? Not to get too arcane but occasionally people have mood depression because of physiological causes.

 

[Shadera]

Pshaw. I haven't been arrested in years, Dave. What's a little old assault and battery on ex boyfriends amongst friends? I probably just jinxed myself.

 

[crotalusadamanteus]

Richard I wish it were that easy. It's not really the "care about" part. I just can't put my finger on it. It's more past the bothering me point it's more like it's bothering me that it bothered me and that I don't know why it did. If that makes any sense? Any other time I would have laughed my ass off at the ridiculousness of it.

I understand what you're saying. I guess I'm saying, you can't be "done" with it, until you are "really done" with it.

Well, I wish you luck in your battle.

 

[DAND]

You better get ready for an ass whoopin, boy. You KNOW that there are those here who care for you and won't let you down. And we're not gonna let this thread die down until you're on the way up. By God you're going to be happy even if we have to beat it into you

JK. (Maybe).

Have you ever considered chemical imbalances and that sort of thing? Not to get too arcane but occasionally people have mood depression because of physiological causes.

Lucille I am always ready for an ass whoopin'. I can't be me and not. I know there folks here who care and that's why I brought it here in the first place. For those of you who know me I am not one to ask for help. When I do it because I am in unfamilar territory (lost) and the only way I know to get to where ones needs to go is to ask for directions (yes ladies, it is hard to believe but there is at one man on this planet who does and will ask for directions).

Yes, I have considered just about everything and I'd have to say no. I could see if a number of things were bothering me but it is only this one situation that is sticking in my craw. Figure it's like that itch that you just can't reach as well as the question of why is that itch there in the first place.

Pshaw. I haven't been arrested in years, Dave. What's a little old assault and battery on ex boyfriends amongst friends? I probably just jinxed myself.

Well, don't worry, this sap'll bail your ex boyfriend whoopin' ass out.

I understand what you're saying. I guess I'm saying, you can't be "done" with it, until you are "really done" with it.

Well, I wish you luck in your battle.

Thanks Richard. Back to the front lines I go.

 

[mgoblue346]

"Treat everyone with politeness, even those who are rude to you. Not because they are kind, but because you are."

Be the man you grew up to be, do things to make you happy, don't worry about those people who screwed you over they will get theirs, and in the end you will not only get what you deserve but you can be happy and content with yourself and the man you are.

 

[DAND]

No good deed goes unpunished....

I just can't win. Well, if I wasn't done helping others before I surly should be now. I am still waiting to get my money back from the City for the remainder of the bail. I was first told it was sent to the wrong address, then it wasn't, then it was, then it wasn't. Now the first check has to be stopped and a second check written and sent. I really should have posted this thread in Hell so I could use some colorful language.

They say hindsight is 20/20. With all this going on I have reflected on the unworthy pieces of detritus whom I have helped. To see how differently they act when they need something but when they have gotten what they need/want I get ignored. Saying "thank you" and meaning it are two different things. Actions speak louder than words. Thanks , yeah, you're real thankful. Well, SCREW YOU all of you ungrateful, lying, thieving, deceitful two-faced pieces of crap. It sickens me to think of helping such unworthy people. If helping others means feeling disgusted with myself then I believe I must stop. Why go out of my way just to crapped on again? The disappointment and frustration far out weigh anything else so why bother?

 

[Shadera]

If helping others means feeling disgusted with myself then I believe I must stop. Why go out of my way just to crapped on again? The disappointment and frustration far out weigh anything else so why bother?

Because you've either got a big heart and you enjoy helping others, or you're a masochist. Or from reading about what goes on at the shows, maybe a bit of both.

 

[Lucille]

David,

Some people are bound to hurt you no matter how nice you are, it's not you, it's them; others will be grateful for you, maybe pick your damsels in distress better next time?:

http://allaboutfrogs.org/stories/scorpion.html

 

[Twizted Paths]

Hey, I like scorpions!

The one I had used to keep the bill money safe from my ex and his sticky fingered family, she never tried to get me though

Damsel in Distress = Leeching Drama Queen 99.999% of the time regardless of gender.

I feel for you, seems like everytime I try to help someone they either stab me in the back or try to pull me down with them. I still think there's good people out there, they're just really hard to find.

All you can do short of becoming a complete recluse is keep weeding the ingrates out & try not to invest yourself in people to much until they've earned your trust.

 

[victoria]

Sooo.. here we are again. Dave.. Ignoring you? Thats funny. Please vent to us all.. Whats its been since we have talked a couple weeks? Maybe? Have you dialed my number? Ignored. HA. Dave, did ya bother to tell me the city hadnt paid ya back? Did ya ask me to cover that expense in the mean time? HMM nope.. Oh people.. Im a bad driver I dont really think that but well the state does.. Yeah, thats why I went to jail.. Feel free to look it up it is the age of information.. though I dont tend to share my info with just anyone, since its here why not huh?
Yeah, Dave Im pissed that ya posted this thread.. Im pissed that people who dont have a single clue about me are passing judgement based on the things you typed. (dramaqueen I love it )Yes, Dave I dont believe that I can say anything to you without it coming here, which I told ya in our last conversation.. I understand that these people are your friends, people you talk to .. a place for you to vent or w/e... Its not how I operate..So go ahead about your business, do what you do and I ll do the same.

 

[victoria]

Oh I meant to mention this in my last post, but ive had a couple drinks .. yes, I smoke, I cuss, I drink.. Im all about me and well screw any of you ( that wanna pass judgement on me) I am who I am and I am so not ashamed of that! I live my life the best way I know how!I live! Its all mine good and bad! Its mine and I accept that.

Happy days people!

V~

 

[DAND]

This is all I have the time or patience for at the moment.