I read all of the BOI threads and NEVER respond to any of them (well, one before this), but this one is absolutely killing me and I cannot stop myself....
I'm not a breeder, but I am in business for myself and do business with the public. Most of my clientele comes to me through email and forums, and it is a broad cross section of humanity.
I have had a few clients like the OP, and had I had as good foresight as my hindsight, I would have KNOWN they were going to be problem clients from the very beginning. Instead, I overrode my first impressions and overlooked the approach. These people invariably ended up being (continuing to be) unreasonable and while we made it through the temporary relationship, stress from deals like that would soon drive me from the business. These days, as soon as I smell something like this, I immediately tell the prospective client that we will not likely be a good match and that he might try one of my competitors, like "XYZ".
The ONLY shortcoming I see from the potential seller is that they should have told the OP to just forget it as soon as they realized how things were going to go. Of course, this can be hard to do and maybe the seller is trying to let the OP cool down or something, hoping they will get something reasonable and coherent at some point, like a direct answer to their prior correspondence.
From what I understand, the OP asked for pictures and received a very clear answer:
"No pics before the weekend.", accompanied by the query "does this work?"
The correct answer here from the buyer would have been:
a) "I see. I need to move faster, I'll have to cancel."
OR
b) "That's fine. I'll be looking forward to seeing them Monday.".
One or the other. That's all there ever was to say.
"Awww Mommmm!!!" doesn't work in business. This approach cannot open a hole in someone's schedule where there is no room or move one to the front of the line by force.
Any response beyond either "a" or "b" above, like trying to contact the seller to "work this out" in any other way, is a complete waste of the seller's time.
Work what out? They already said what they could do and asked if it was OK?
Then, to hammer the seller with an excess (whew!!!) number of additional emails that clearly waste their time is WAY over the top. "Out of sight" over the top. Stalker/harassment-type over the top.
I'm old and independent and contrary, but had this been done to me, I'd not waste my time with this obviously unreasonable customer. I'd simply cancel any pending order and advise the customer in a no-nonsense manner that our business is concluded. From there on out, I would not even bother to read any further emails from this potential buyer. This might make me unpopular in some circles, but I can better serve my core clientele by not wasting my time.
This is where I would find fault with the potential seller: They should have cleared up any confusion by simply telling the OP to shop elsewhere. As it is, it is impossible to know their intentions and in a narrowly focused way, I don't blame the OP for being aggravated by this specific lack of communication.
OTOH, there already WAS ample communication that was not clearly addressed by the OP. Just because the potential buyer didn't like the answer doesn't mean there was anything to "work out", nor is the seller expected to be required to negotiate what they have already stated to be their best possible accommodation to the OP's requests.
As pointed out above, answering emails is a part of business, but there are also concepts like "priorities" and "time constraints" and "personal life". I work 8-10 hours a day, then spend about 1-2 hours daily answering emails, private messages and phone calls. Sometimes, I just cannot get to everything and may not return every call and every email. If someone is clearly wasting my time, it is hard to make it a priority to respond and I guarantee they will not get a return until my reasonable clients are taken care of.
If, for example, I quote my regular fee and the potential client found my rates to be too high, or that my earliest availability was December, but then they said they wanted to "talk about it and work it out", I'd know they wanted to try to persuade me to do something I cannot do. Do they expect me to dump someone else to give them a slot? Do they really think I have so much money in the deal that I can give some to them if they pound on me enough? I'd probably not even bother respond, because they are attempting to waste my time and energy trying to negotiate something that is non-negotiable.
Junranpd, I feel your pain, brother. My advice, slow down. A lot. You haven't had a bad experience. Life doesn't move as fast as you can punch computer keys. You haven't been robbed. You haven't been disrespected. It's a nice thing to get your friend a rhino iguana. Put it in a lower gear, give mike enough time to get this done. I don't know mike, but I don't doubt for a second this can end well. Slow down. Let it happen. Don't assume the worst. As important as this is, it's one of many daily transactions mike has to nail down and execute. These things are complicated and time consuming. Hope it goes well.
This is a great post! Very reasonable and well stated.
I cannot tell over the internet whether the OP is a young person still learning the ways of the world or simply a difficult person used to being catered to up till now. I DO have the impression the OP is extremely impatient and impulsive, and regardless of the basis for this behavior, there has really been no reason to start and perpetuate a thread like this. I see no 'bad guys' here, there has been no theft or fraud.
You asked.
They answered.
You went postal with emails.
They ducked and covered.
No apparent mystery.
I'd like to see the seller respond here and would ask if they have been alerted to this thread? It would be interesting to see another side of this "issue".
I'd be delighted to see a FULL disclosure of ALL emails, BOTH WAYS, start to finish, from both sides. No editing, no BS, no editorializing.