Sal says
"YES" I WILL make good for anything i have done wrong in the past and what ever it takes and however i have to go about it.
I think that one of the problems here is that to a lot of people there are different levels of "making good". I'll make some examples to see if I can make my point:
1. Guy steals a horse, decides to make good, brings the horse back, apologizes profusely and with hat in hand asks what else he might do to prove how much he has changed. When asked to muck stables for a week, he gladly does it, repentant for his bad action, and seriously overcome with remorse. This guy has "made good" and in a while, if he continues his good behaviour, people will feel he is a "changed man"... but it won't be overnight, and you can bet that the next horse that is stolen he'll be scrutinized. If he has really changed, he'll welcome the scrutiny and do everything he can to help them find the horse thief.
2. Guy steals a horse. Learns that the people from whom he stole it had insurance and were recompensed for the horse. He proudly rides it in parades proclaiming that he has "made good" on his bad actions, and that everyone he did wrong has been taken care of. (The owners of the horse were paid for it, so it's his, right?) Expects everyone to throw confetti and roses on him and trust him immediately, AND looks shocked when the police are waiting to pick him up at the end of the parade. This guy hasn't changed. He actually just plain doesn't KNOW or UNDERSTAND decent behaviour.
3. Guy steals a horse. Everyone knows it's him, but can't prove it. The owner of the horse, Tony, posts all kinds of proof, to which the horse theif posts other supposed (but manufactured) evidence. Finally he lets the horse go in a field and Tony re-aquires it. To prove his innocense he posts a picture of the owner with the horse: SEE I told you he had his horse, I never had it, this is proof. I'm a changed man.
See the problem is that if every single person came on here and told sal, in small messages without extra fluff, (all the better to read and avoid misunderstanding) what exactly they felt he did wrong, what he has or has not done to make it better, and what they WANT him to do to make it better, and then he DID it, then I would look for his good behaviour, and within six months, or a year, or possibly longer, I might start to consider doing business with him.
For an example, if I was the person who bought cages, got the runaround, was told lies (cage is in the mail) and eventually had to get the money from the credit card company, I might want the following (and I realize that the real person might feel differently)... I might say: First of all I want proof that you have paid the money back to the appropriate credit card company... scan a receipt, do NOT omit the DATE on the letter (as has been done before), but do feel free to omit the street and number part of the address, account number, and phone numbers. SECOND I would want, after that proof was posted an abject apology in public, explaining what exactly you did wrong (no EXCUSES, nobody really wants to hear them!!!) ... you know... something to the effect of: "I apologize to you. I took your money. I said I was going to ship the cages. I never shipped them. I then left town. I made you have to get your money back from the credit card company. This was dishonest of me and I have no excuse for this behavioiur. Again I apologize, I hope someday you will see how I have changed and wish to do business with me in the future. Again I state I WAS IN THE WRONG."
Anyway.... all of this requires a level of character that is perhaps impossible for some to acheive.
