I have been accused of several things in this post and to say I am not "out" anything is naive. This is bullying someone to get what you want and he has posted disparraging remarks on this site that can not be undone and has made accusations that are false about the way I do business.
For me to give him what he wants at this point just looks like there is some truth to his accusations and there is not!
Being an unhappy customer is one thing but going on a public forum and mudslinging with intent to drag someone down is not something I plan on cowering to.
Okay...but you can't really claim that this BOI thread is the reason you're not "giving in," since you still refused him any restitution at all before he came here. In fact, he probably would never have created this thread had you been reasonable with him the first time he indicated his displeasure to you. He gave the gecko ample opportunity to live up to your advertisement; it never did, so he then offered to return it
at his own expense for a refund. Those are the actions of a reasonable, patient buyer.
For the sake of argument: let's assume that the gecko the OP received from you, Kim, is indeed the same one you advertised and sold to him (heck, I do believe it is). A good seller who finds herself placed in this situation, and who wants to keep her reputation solid, would scratch her head and say, "Gosh, I have no idea why he won't color up for you like he does for me, but since you don't feel like you got what you paid for, send him back for a refund." You'd have avoided a BOI thread (unless he posted a GOOD one on you for being so great to deal with) and probably retained a repeat customer.
I completely understand feeling defensive about this thread - though, honestly, I haven't seen one example of false accusations, mudslinging, or disparaging remarks from the OP towards you. He unquestionably exercised bad judgment in his choice of thread title, but haven't we all acted badly out of frustration/anger before? He has pretty much been purely factual in his quest for a resolution - an absolute dream of a customer, IMHO. The speculations and accusations you reference have almost exclusively come from other posters.
You are making yourself sound petty, childish and unreasonable by turning this into an "I-can't-let-him-get-away-with-this" argument instead of dealing strictly in facts - even if said facts don't make sense to you, such as the gecko inexplicably changing color. Potential buyers are going to be reading this, and how you carry yourself here (both demeanor and actions), MORE than what anyone else says, will determine whether they decide to trust you with their business.
I know nothing about geckos, but the one he photographed is night and day from the pic in your ad. I'd feel scammed, too, if I spent that much money expecting a white gecko and got an olive one instead. Is it OK with you for your customer to feel scammed?