Spent an hour reading all 22 pages of this. Wow. Just wow.
First off, Thomas, you are a hypocrit. You say that the adults need to act like adults, yet you are calling everyone on this forum a moron simply because they dont agree with you. Real mature.
Second, you say this snake fed the the day before you force fed her water. The snake you show in the video looks like it would be unable to feed. Therefore, my guess would be that you screwed up on the force feeding and hurt her or shoved the water down the wrong tube. IF she was dehydrated, which I believe she wasnt (i'll get to that in a sec), a good soaking and/or misting would do the trick. There was no reason to force feed water. Force feeding anything, food or water, can be risky. Especially with hatchlings.
Third, you say she passed a urate a minute after you force fed the water. This proves she wasnt dehydrated. Water takes more than a minute to pass through her system.
Fourth, you say you've been in ball pythons for two years. That's great, but it doesnt make you an expert! There are people on here that have been in it for 20yrs. You can only learn so much off the internet. I suggest you change your attitude and take your own advice, act like an adult and stop whining and calling names when someone dares have a different opinion.
Fifth, you say:
Sunday I went to check on her and she was twisted up and looked very dehydrated.
Have you ever had a spider morph before? That 'twisted up' thing was probably just her being a spider. I have a spider (low wobble) and they are overall VERY different from your average ball python.
Sixth, there is nothing dangerous about breeding spider x spider. You seriously showed your ignorance there. Before I got my spider I spent a good week researching them. Their behaviour, characteristics, genetics, etc.. There has been no proof that breeding spider x spider is lethal.
Seventh, that more than likely isnt IBD. If it was she and half your collection would be dead by now.
In conclusion, I feel you are the one that messed up that poor snake by force feeding her water. Either you hurt her or shoved the water down the wrong tube but that's what I think. If I was the seller I would tell you that you're outta luck, negligence isnt covered. Hopefully that poor snake can be helped.